Absolutely not. As I read somewhere once "You can offer me a map, but in the end you need to not back-seat drive or take over to make sure I stay on the 'right road'. I need to do the driving."

I really loved that, because that's basically what parents should do. Offer advice, occasional punishment for when you do something pretty bad and then explain how they feel about issues and why. But otherwise, BACK OFF.

My mother recently (about three weeks ago) told me that I had to stop being friends with a lot of my EXTREMELY close buds because they were Middle Eastern. She SAID that was the reason. She told me "An Arab will NEVER step foot inside my house and you will NEVER be involved with one."

HELLO! My friends are AMERICAN!! And when I told her she was being racsist, she looked my square in the eye and said without so much as a trace of sarcasm or joking "You're right. And damn proud of it too."

Yeah, see, that there, is an example where my parents have NO RIGHT on my life. Not for something so outrageous as that. I told her I would never stop being friends with them, and she told me I had to choose: be a part of the family or stay friends with them.

She never actually kicked me out or anything, but I think someday she just might.

I think its best to talk to a parent, but if they dont move on their decision, go with it until you are at college or on your own. Just make them think that you are doing when u arent because then on your life is yours.

We are beings of freewill. So on that thought no. However, they brought us here, and they are the reason we eat, are clothed etc. So on that thought yes. However, no human is ever cabable of completely controlling another. I have EXTREME authority problems, and they have gotten me into a LOT of trouble. But thru and thru, in the end, if you are willing to take the consequences, then no on can completely control you. Personally, Ill take whatever consequences anyone can throw at me, because just knowing I stood up for what I thought keeps me happy.Of course they cant control your religion, but until youre 18, and on your own, they CAN tell you to go to church etc. Move out and move on.

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
My mom pushed me out of her vagina. That does not mean she is my mother.

Could you expound?

My mom pushed me out of her vagina. That does not mean she is my mother.

You're supposed to honor them whether they "treat you good" (which should be well) or not. If they beat you, you are still supposed to honor them. Honor thy father and thy mother isn't conditional. Yes, if they beat you, you should seek help from the authorities, but they both brought you into this world, and that's something to be more grateful about than anything on this planet. It is never appropriate to curse at your parents. It is never appropriate to attack, hurt or disrespect your parents. Even if they are criminals, you need to respect them.

Do you live in thier house?
Do they feed you?
Do they buy you clothes on a regular basis?
Do they pay you an allowance?
Do they pay for your TV?
Do they pay for your computer/internet?

Need I go on? Become independant then you can ***** about not having someone providing that stuff for you. SO yes your parents have every right to control your *** 100% of the time.

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"Honor them if they treat you good"

treat you well.

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if a child's parents said that he had to be home by 10 does the government have a right to say that the child can stay out until 11

I have never seen sucha thing. I have seen the government put a curfew of 11, but never anything that says children have to be allowed out until 11.

Sadly, God says in the 10 Commandments. "Honor your mother and father" PERIOD. He doesn't say "Honor them if they treat you good"... If your atheist, than leagally, until your 18. Before than, your considered too stupid to make your own decisions.

babe till your 18 you have NO rights.......however you can still think and make your own choices you just got to know how to work your parents, bend the rules, twist the truth, pass a lie dector test and decieve them.......all you have to do is learn all that...hey it comes to me naturally, its not that hard! just search all those little filing cabinets in your brain and pull out the right folder....babe good luck and just email me if you need any help......love ya

no, but they do it anyway.

What do you guys think about the government making laws that controll what our parents can and cannot do to us? For example, if a child's parents said that he had to be home by 10 does the government have a right to say that the child can stay out until 11-- no matter what the parents have to say.

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me and my mom were at the movies. we are just heading in to see " THE GRUDGE", then all of a sudden her cell phone rings (its my little brother). my mom tells me to go find some seats, but i really didnt want to, so i said "NO". she says " Boy, you better go find us some seats before the good ones are taken." She made my decision for me, take notice.

Wasn't what your mom saying good advice? And since she wanted to sit by you rather than strangers, she tried to find you?

Generally, if you do what your parents say, you would be better off.

Or am I wrong? Explain.

no parents dont hav the right to CONTROL ALL OUR DECISIONS! what is wrong with you people? my mom has done s0o many things that have embarrased me all because she wanted to make my decisions.
for instance:
(1.)me and my mom were at the movies. we are just heading in to see " THE GRUDGE", then all of a sudden her cell phone rings (its my little brother). my mom tells me to go find some seats, but i really didnt want to, so i said "NO". she says " Boy, you better go find us some seats before the good ones are taken." She made my decision for me, take notice. Then about 15-10 minutes later she comes in the theater (the place is crowded). Next thing I know my mom is screaming my name through out the movie theatre. (your probably thinking "so, what's wrong with that, i have had worst incidents.",..... just wait)
next thing i know, every boy, girl, mom, and dad is screaming my name. i was so0o embarassed . everybody screaming "julian1?", "juliaN!?" "where are you Julian?!"
all of this because my mom decided to make my decision.
(you may still not think thats bad, but wait....)
at the end of the movie and me and my mom are leaving after she finally found me (and so did the rest of the people in the movie theater).
i see my girl friend, and a bunch of her friends from skool at the door saying "Julian!? Julian?! julian??!"
believe i have never gone anyplace with my mom since.

I think parents have the right to know where you are and what you're doing, and to express their opinion about it, but they have to allow you to make your own choices. The sooner they start treating you as an adult the sooner you'll learn to act like one.

My parents have expected maturity from me and talked to me as an equal from an early age, I think that's been a really good strategy. They've have always encouraged me to do well in school, which made me motivated to do it of my own accord. They did check up on me I suppose, but they've never forced me to do anything (except maybe washing the dishes etc ). Being dictatorial just creates resentment, and shouldn't be resorted to unless their son/daughter looks like they're going to harm themselves.

I agree with everything zyxlorb said, basically.

Resistance is futile. If they care about you, let them care for you. If not, I guess the topic's a jump ball.

I parents should urge their kids to be positive and take care of themselves. Parents should speak with their children and tell them to not do drugs or go out and mess up their lives. Parents should also add in that they care because some kids wont get it and think their momma or daddy is just lecturing them. But also, parents need to let their kids go out and learn and see what kind of social and physical world is around them. You can't say you're doing right for your kid when you don't let them out to have fun when all they wanna do is go to the mall or something. The ingredients call for love and devotion and the kid will understand in time.

parents have the right to control our decisions.. some of them anyway... we should give them respect because when we become parents too, we would also do that. And parents are just doing that for our own good.

i agree with blue. at 18 we become legal adults and i think thats an appropriate time for people to make their own decisions. before that, kids just need to deal with it. unless one lives in an abusive environment, there aren't excuses for refusing to respect one's source of life.

Parents do have the right to control their children. It is the law, plain and simple, no arguements. I have an excellent relationship with my parents because we respect each other. I think if you sit down and have a reasonable and mature discussion with your parents then they will see that you are a reasonable and mature person. Try to avoid the "I hate you" and "Get out of my life" statements.

To answer your question parents cannot control your thoughts and beliefs. However, they can control what you do and wear.