Ok so me and my dad have never really gotten along. He was always a jerk. but now that i am older, he is trying to start " a healthy father daughter realtionship", and i dont think i know how to take it. So I am the one pushing him away, calling him names. What do you do when the roles are switched? I dont want it to be like this forever, but then i dont know if he deserves a chance. I dont know what to do. I mean alot of people have topics where the situation is the parents are abusive verbally and physically. But mine, mine is different. I am the verbal abuser. I say things to him like " you dont care", "youre just going to leave agina, whats the point".. you know? and i ts all because.. i dont know what to think.. any advice?

my dad's kinda the opposite of ur dads. when i was little me and my dad had this great relationship. but the older i get the less we see eye to eye. i realized that he's kinda raciest and that buggs me. and a lot of the time no matter what i do it's wrong or not enough. and he's always picking on me and being such a hypocryt but i cant say anything or i'll get in trouble. he does the same thing to my older brother too. and if my dad doesnt realize that he needs to stop and soon i'm afraid my brother's not gonna come home anymore. espically when i graduate and in his words "he doesnt have a reason to come home anymore"

also, instead of saying those mean things, just figure out what the issue is and bring it up to him, which is that he was never really that nice to you and had all your childhood to start a good father daughter relationship. get to the main point, dear.

iknow exactly how u feel. my dad has been a jerk too, but i know he does work hard and i appreciate all hes done for me, but i know he does it out of obligation. he often tells me that he wishes he never got married, never had kids, or how nice it would have been to just have sent me with my mom. he does do alot for all my family, but he needs to watch his mouth. i would love to be in your position right now, but i would say EXACTLY how i feel to him. i wouldnt hide it up and never discuss it, especialy now since your older, he can somewhat take you more seriously. tell him things he never knew about you before and when your done, he'll feel totally clueless and then you guys will see things differently.....maybe. but at least you'll feel better by letting it out and clearing some stuff. As for me and my dad, at my age i cant really say much to catch his attention since i am so young. hell maybe listen when i am an adult, and will respect me more openly cuz he'll see that i'm not a lil teenager anymore. hope this helps and relates to your situation <3