my dad thinks spanking is abuse so he has never spanked me before.... he just yells @ me

Children need displine. People need to spank their kids... if more kids were spanked then they wouldn't be so delinquent. Its just the way it is... it isn't abuse but displine.

I don't believe spanking is a good
punishment. There are other things
that can be done to punish a child
that do not include any kind of violence.

i believe that spanking a child is a good form of punishment. when iwas little i used to get spanked. man it hurt but irealized that i dids omething bad and i try to fix it. Even though that i am 16, i still get spanked, but i realize that i did something wrong and I will try to change my ways. like if I get bad grades or something. so, yes i think it is good for a punishment of course.

Hey, I don't know about you guys, but I think spanking is acceptable in a certain measure. My dad used to spank me when I was particularly bad, like pouring glue all over his best hats or spraying the fire extinguishers all over my parent's room, and not once did I repeat such acts. I can't say that corporal punishment would work on every child, but it certainly worked for me.

However, keep in mind that this is not to say support such disciplinary measures.

According to vox populi, tractable adolescents should be bequeathed with an onslaught of mandatory beatings to ensure morale, an element sufficiently lacking in these revolutionary times.

But I'm certainly not one to promote violence..

when i was little my mom used to spank me. man it hurt! nowadays i dont think its acceptable. Hitting ur child is just...wrong. there are plenty more ways to disapline ur child then spanking them.

What the hell...?

Well now italianstallion, I agree with you! Wahoo!


by the way I like Italians...

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just playing....

i think

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I don't think that spanking encourages children to fight and hit when they get angry, but abuse certainly does. It could be very possible that spanking does make this happen in some children, but not all. I think every child responds differently to different stimuli. For one child, such as 3rdeyecure, simply pointing out the mistake or discussing the wrongness of such an action may be enough. For another child, a timeout may encourage the child to refrain from that activitiy. Some children stop saying bad words after soap has entered the mouth. And some children respond best to spanking. The fact of the matter is that no two children are alike, so it is asine to think that the same punishment will work for everyone. If one form of punishment works, fantastic, it should be used to deter future action. If it does not, then another one should be used until one is found that can effectively deter the rebellious, dangerous or unacceptable behavior. If spanking works, and there are no unintended or worse consequences, then it should be utilized. The same goes with any form of punishment.

ilovebush said it best when s/he (sorry) wrote that parents shouldn't spank for every single wrong that is committed. A varied selection of punishment can be used to effectively deter poor behavior. Besides, verbal abuse can be worse than physical abuse. So perhaps talking it out will produce adverse effects and not cure the problem.

I don't like the idea of spanking. I was never spanked as a child. I guess that if spanking is used prudently than it is fine. However, there is a fine line between discipline and abuse. Also, in a way, I believe spanking is encouraging children to hit and fight when they get angry.

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I think any parent who spanks their kid is too lazy to think of a better punishment that could actually help the kid think about what they did rather than think its ok to hit people when they do wrong.

like what - make little two year old Jonny sit in a chair and think about what hes done wrong? Children have a short attention span, and after about two minutes, theyre going to forget about whatever they supposedly did wrong, and are going to planning what theyre going to do when they can get up. I'm not saying that you should spank your kids over every little thing - but I dont think "time out" works for younger kids.

I was spanked (not often) and I'll most likely do the same to my kids. Its not the "lazy" thing to do (I think "time out" is more lazy) but to teach your children that you are the parent and they are the child and they have to respect you and your rules.

Hey I was never spanked... and I have to say I really behave myself. My mom was never "exuasted" and used it as a last resort...
Instead we talked things out... sorry I just think it's better to use words than hands.

Besides how could you hit your own kid? even as a punishment. I always think that when you hit someone you just can't think of anything else to do so you resort to crude and primative physical pain...

Well whatever... spanking can create results and I don't necessarily like them... I would never want my hand to be seen as a punishment by my child.

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I think any parent who spanks their kid is too lazy to think of a better punishment that could actually help the kid think about what they did rather than think its ok to hit people when they do wrong.

Or maybe it's the last resort that actually works. Could it be that these parents have exhausted all other options and spanking produces results? Whenever I was spanked, I definately thought about what I did wrong and made sure I avoided that because I definately didn't want to be spanked. The same went for when my parents would yell at me. It was very rare that my parents would raise their voice, but when they did, I knew I was in trouble (or whenever they threw in the middle name). Besides, spanking your child does not teach them it is ok to hit people if they do wrong, but rather that they will be hit if they push the situation too far. It's always a last resort and people who use occasional spanking are not lazy people who are confused, rather they are utilizing all options by making a "pecking-order" of punishments.

I think any parent who spanks their kid is too lazy to think of a better punishment that could actually help the kid think about what they did rather than think its ok to hit people when they do wrong.

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Originally posted by redrepublican:
After a while of being told you *could* be hit, didnt you ever try to push your luck?
didnt you ever see how far you could go?
I probably would have, but maybe thats just me

Lol, oh no. The thing is..the first time I did something terrible, I got hit for it. After that, the thought that would happen again combined with the look of death were enough to keep me in line.

But yeah, every so often I'd push my luck and see what would happen. But I think whomever said discipline changes with every child, that applied to me. I was a smart kid, and my parents respected that and explained to me why what I did was wrong. Because they took out this time instead of just smackin' me, I respected them AND learned from it.

But when I was way out of line, I got smacked. That didn't happen a lot, though, because of what I said earlier.

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Originally posted by L0serish:
i find it to be a bad thing... it instills discipline by fear instead of by respect.

will you please elaborate a little more on the respect/fear thing?

if you raise your kids consistently from the time theyre born, theyre going to automatically respect you. Spanking is only for when a child is bad, not a routine thing and to show that they will be punished for their bad actions - not for them to fear you.

i find it to be a bad thing... it instills discipline by fear instead of by respect.

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I *could* get hit.

After a while of being told you *could* be hit, didnt you ever try to push your luck?
didnt you ever see how far you could go?
I probably would have, but maybe thats just me

An occasiona well-deserved spanking = okay.
A full on beating session = not okay.