I think I was spanked once. I was a good kid.

I don't know...I think I'm against the whole spanking thing.

It used to scare me out of my mind...especially when Dad was going to do it because it could get out of hand. And it doesn't really teach you anything. Don't do this because you'll get hurt and humiliated...that's a great thing to teach your children. And couldn't it confuse them when they were older because they had been physically taught not to do that but now they're old enough and can?

It just doesn't seem like a good form of punishment. It made me hate my parents at times and I don't want my kids to hate me. I think there are probably better disciplining methods that don't include spanking.

Spanking, good (when and only when necessary if it doesnt go too far.) Beating, bad. If a child really needs it, spank em. But if it can be handled another way, try that. I guess whatever works for you...

I've been spanked it's really a good psychological weapon the fear is a more powerful tool then the actual punishment personally I think the time out is a tragedy and iis the reason we have so many undiscplined morons running around mainly from california I know this because I have seen a lot of california parents and these people are insane I chould raise their kids better then them I mean there is no discipline at all the kids are running every where drawing on walls chasing each other with whatever they chould hit each other with. In the name of God it's all I chould do to keep from turnining in to my dad and spanking those kids

I was spanked as a child. I wasn't spanked that much, occaisionally injustly, but I think it's generally a good thing. Especially if the parents spank the child, then the child goes up to their room and then a little later their parents come up and explain that they had down wrong, but they still love them and stuff.

I was spanked as a child. I wasnt spanked that much because frankly, after you get spanked once or twice, youre not going to do whatever you did to get the spankin'. I understand that some people believe there are other ways of punishment (like grounding and things like this) but I dont think that "sit here and think about what you did" doesnt work. Do you honestly think that a three year old is going to sit there and "think about what he/shes done"? If I had to do that (even know) I would just sit there and think about what I was going to do once I got to get up. Of course spanking shouldnt be used if the child doesnt deserve it (like gabibiff said the parents are in a bad mood) but you normally only have to spank them once for them to realize they shouldnt do whatever they were doing to get one.

At some points yes but at others no b/c you need a spankin if you run around screaming and acting like an idiot but I don't think you should have one if you come in (when your parents are in a bad mood)and say whatcha doin and get a spankin that isn't right(thats happened to me before).

your not living if you don't take chances.

Me and my older brother were both spanked and we are still fun poeple but we know when we go to far. My younger brother on theother hand is only punished with grounding, and it doesn't doanything for him, he's a little brat and should be smacked upside the head when he does something stupid, that would teach him that he shouldn't be doing what he's doing.

I DO understand that other people have their own opinions. The "stupid" comment was for those people who makes arguements that are FACTUALLY wrong.

Also, if you DID answer my question, I certainly did not see it...maybe it was too mixed into something else, but I never read anything of the sort.

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Originally posted by Meagan87:

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I would like to pose the question what do you do when hitting isn't working and the kids are still misbehaving and not listening? What do you do when the kids have become too old/too big to hit? Teachers, babysitters, nannies, and other child care professionals manage not to hit the children they care for and I think more parents should do the same.

Physical things are things that every child is aware of. If something hurts, a child is unlikely to do it again. What would YOU do if your "sitting down and explaining what they have done wrong" backfires and the child has no respect for authority? The right amount of corporal punishment as a younger child will allow punishments such as groundings and loss of privilages to have backing when a child is older. When I was younger and grounded, I didn't violate the terms of a grounding because I knew that then I would get a spanking. Now I listen to my parents because I am old enough where they could kick me out of the house if I did something stupid enough. My friend's brother was NEVER spanked and whenever his parents ground him, he is going out and watching tv the very same day. He doen't understand the respect for authrity.

As for other people disciplining a child, if the parents would socialize their child to begin with, the child would learn to respect their teachers and babysitters and we would not even have to touch on this point.

Think outside the box before making a blatantly stupid arguement...

Just because someone does not agree with you does not make their argument stupid. There are many parents who don't hit their children and the kids are doing just fine. I never said every parent who has ever tapped their children is an evil abuser or anything like that I'm just saying that I think there are better ways to punish a child, which I listed when I did answer your question. You did not answer mine, but I know you think it is an acceptable form of discipline and that is fine because you are entitled to your own opinion as am I. If you feel it worked for your family that's great but all children are different so what works for one child might not be best for another.If you ever have any children it will be up to you and their father to decide how to discipline them, I'm not trying to stop you or anyone else I just feel that there are alternatives that can and in many cases do work.

Or maybe punishment...

I've heard it doesn't work, but I'm thinking it might.

spanking is only for in bed

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I would like to pose the question what do you do when hitting isn't working and the kids are still misbehaving and not listening? What do you do when the kids have become too old/too big to hit? Teachers, babysitters, nannies, and other child care professionals manage not to hit the children they care for and I think more parents should do the same.

Physical things are things that every child is aware of. If something hurts, a child is unlikely to do it again. What would YOU do if your "sitting down and explaining what they have done wrong" backfires and the child has no respect for authority? The right amount of corporal punishment as a younger child will allow punishments such as groundings and loss of privilages to have backing when a child is older. When I was younger and grounded, I didn't violate the terms of a grounding because I knew that then I would get a spanking. Now I listen to my parents because I am old enough where they could kick me out of the house if I did something stupid enough. My friend's brother was NEVER spanked and whenever his parents ground him, he is going out and watching tv the very same day. He doen't understand the respect for authrity.

As for other people disciplining a child, if the parents would socialize their child to begin with, the child would learn to respect their teachers and babysitters and we would not even have to touch on this point.

Think outside the box before making a blatantly stupid arguement...

I love it...I ask a question, and then people reply back with questions of their own...WITHOUT ANSWERING MINE...

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Well, as my parents always say/scream/shriek/yell:

"This is NOT a democracy!"

Firstly, I won't even go into my rant about verbal abuse and how it can permanantly damage a child...
Secondly, If this is not a democracy, then that makes me the ultimate dictator, as I am the originator of this thread...you would have been better off with a democracy missy...

I think the best ways to handle children who are throwing tantrums in public is to take them home and let them know that if they can't behave in public then you won't be taking them anywhere with you. This includes fun outings they would want to go on like visiting the zoo or going to Mcdonalds or Toys r us. I know of someone who's mom took him home from from the grocery store and made him stay in his bed for the rest of the day and he never threw a tantrum in public like that again. When a child throws a tantrum the best thing for the parent to do is to remain calm until it passes, when the child realizes they are not going to get the reaction they are looking for they eventually calm down. Hitting children won't calm them down it will only make them more upset. When a child misbehaves it is better in my opinion to take away priveledges than to use violence. I feel like when an adult hits a child they are taking advantage of the child's size and inability to fight back. I know someone who says when her parents would hit her she would just hit them back.I don't think it sends the right message to kids. I would like to pose the question what do you do when hitting isn't working and the kids are still misbehaving and not listening? What do you do when the kids have become too old/too big to hit? Teachers, babysitters, nannies, and other child care professionals manage not to hit the children they care for and I think more parents should do the same.

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An excellent question which I would also like to see answered.

Well, as my parents always say/scream/shriek/yell:

"This is NOT a democracy!"

FML:

I totally agree! I mean, I'm old enough to be grounded, not spanked! But, it hurts, so I guess they figure it gets the job done.

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So, give me an example of what you would do if your child had behavior problems. Let's say you have already sent them to their room and they leave, or pt them in time-out and they didn't stay there...how would you then handle it? Just curious...

An excellent question which I would also like to see answered.

Spanking is a good way of dealing with troublesome children, when used in a last resort or only sever punishment is required. Many people have been smacked, it does't permantly destroy your life. That is the line between spanking and abuse.

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Honestly, no I don't. There are much better ways to deal with small children who throw tantrums.

So, give me an example of what you would do if your child had behavior problems. Let's say you have already sent them to their room and they leave, or pt them in time-out and they didn't stay there...how would you then handle it? Just curious...