I am 17 and I'm pregnant. I love the one I'm w/ thats not a problem. I'm really scared of course. Well my mom is kinda abusive. She told me if I ever got pregnant that she would punch me in my stomach, push me down the stairs and try to make me have an abortion.She's told me she would kick me out and everyting.in plus the guy I'm with is 21 she hates the fact that we talk at all and I told her there is nothing going on between us.(I lied, been doin that for 8 mths now) Im at least 1 mth now. I dont know how to tell her. she already pitches fits about him I mean how is it gonna be when I tell her this?? I guess what I'm asking is how do I tell her??
where do I tell her??
I'm afraid she'll try to kill it and me.
help!!

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Originally posted by Wolfie:
Here's an idea, maybe you should get an abortion because, sweetie, your life is going to stop as soon as that sucker pops out. There goes your chance to be successful, have a decent education and so long to partying, unless you'll keep "your life" instead of sacrificing it for your child, but then that'll just make you a shitty parent.

while i agree with you Wolfie, i do think brokenrazor21 that it will be hard to abort your baby.
what you need to do is sit down and talk with your mom.
say, "mom, i'm so heartly sorry about this ... but i'm pregnant. but don't worry pleaseeeee i want to abort the baby and wait until i'm more responsible." see what she has to say.
i wish you luck.

Here's an idea, maybe you should get an abortion because, sweetie, your life is going to stop as soon as that sucker pops out. There goes your chance to be successful, have a decent education and so long to partying, unless you'll keep "your life" instead of sacrificing it for your child, but then that'll just make you a shitty parent.

I know that it has been a while since your posting, are you still pregnant? i hope that she did not hurt either of you. I have been there , in yiur situation and have had soooo many friends as well and a few that your fear you speak of happened too by the hands of their mother or father.
I would say my best advice be to tell a counciler or mentour figure you confine in and trust to go home with you and tell her while you are there or them when you are there. DO NOT DO IT ALONE, she will hurt you. If your mom is always doing this contact a wrc, womans resource center in your area and they will give you a place to live and help in every way, i mean every...so i hope you r ok and have fun enjoying that baby, they grow fast, and if not than i hope it was your free will

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Originally posted by brokenrazor21:
I am 17 and I'm pregnant. I love the one I'm w/ thats not a problem. I'm really scared of course. Well my mom is kinda abusive. She told me if I ever got pregnant that she would punch me in my stomach, push me down the stairs and try to make me have an abortion.She's told me she would kick me out and everyting.in plus the guy I'm with is 21 she hates the fact that we talk at all and I told her there is nothing going on between us.(I lied, been doin that for 8 mths now) Im at least 1 mth now. I dont know how to tell her. she already pitches fits about him I mean how is it gonna be when I tell her this?? I guess what I'm asking is how do I tell her??
where do I tell her??
I'm afraid she'll try to kill it and me.
help!!

I was with a girl who was two years older than I. My mom told me not to have sex and everything and didn't agree of her being two years older than me, even though if my mom was still in high school she would be three years older than my dad. Kind of hypocritical. I loved this girl very much. And we had been together for two years and due to fights with my mother and the mean things my mother said to me and her broke up. I know parents want to do what's best for their children, but sometimes parents adopt such love for that child that they can't stand to see them go on in life. Especially if that person gets more attention than the parent. If your mom would do something like that, she obviously has problems that she thinks are normal and that every parent would act that way if they were in her situation.

In The Holy Bible

Matthew 19: 4-6

He (Jesus) replied, that He who created them in the beginning made them male and female, and He also said: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, man must not separate.

You may be young, but God granted us the gift of emotion and feelings. And we obviously, as humans, know what we want and we know when we feel love between ourselves and another.

So in conclusion, giving the actions she said she would do to you, try telling her over the phone and letting a pregnancy clinic know that you feel being pregnant and in that environment, you and your baby do not feel safe. They will not make you go there if you feel your mother would do such terrible actions to yuo and your child. A child, a gift from God Himself.

go to a doctor or a pregnancy clinic, they will help you figure out what to do. it seems like you want to have the baby, so make sure that youre getting proper care and everything. it's your decision, dont let anyone push you around on this one.

i can't really tell you what to do since i've never been in this situation.
i can suggest you look up pregnancy clinics in your area and tell them about your mom so you can get the help you need for both you and your child.
and please, have the baby.
i wish you luck and you are un my prayers.

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