I've never really talked to my 'rents bout dating. i mean, i had my 1st bf in the 4th grade!!! - but it wasnt serious it was just like talking more cuz i was ung. I think my mom would let me date, i mean she duznt know about my bf, but im sure she would b ok with it....i hope!

My mom couldn't date till she was 15 and neither could I. Parents want to raise you as they see fit, and as far as I see you might as well wait, whats the sense in going behind her back when you're prolly gonna get caught anyways. Your mom thinks thats the proper age to date, and alls you can do untill then is try to prove you're a responsible young adult and maybe she might ease up a bit possibly or give you more priveleges when you do turn 16 and start dating.

haha, well im sorry, wolfie

NYD- Damn, you said what I was going to say.

Now I have nothing to add to this discussion.

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Originally posted by Y100Gothchick:
I think that it is piontless that my mother won't let me date 'till I'm 16. 16! What do you think? Does your mom or dad let you date?

From Y1001Gothchick

Simple.Because different parents have different views on how to raise their children.


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I'm 16. 16!

..wow Y100Gothchick.. im 13..and i'm dating a great guy..for three months now..maybe u should tlk to your mom..ask her why you cant date.get her opinions instead of the answer being no and thats it...tell her how much it means to u..maybe there will be some room for nigotiation.. if you havent tried that already..

ok i have a question for everyone..

im a 13 year old girl. i never get into trouble. im responsible and my friends are responsible.i get good grades.im a pretty good kid...but my parents wont let me go to the mall without supervision..to go shopping,talk,see a movie, or w/e with my friends..no matter if its my girl friends or my guy friends.. all my other friends are allowed...some of my friends my mom has known them and their parents ever since kindergarden..my sister isen't even allowed to go without parental supervision and she's 15 and her friends can drive... i was wondering..if im just being rediculous..or is 13 really too young?


i would really REALLY appreciate some replys

~camy~

parents try to be in so much control sometimes and it could be because they know what lies ahead which they often do. after all, life is a constant cycle with just a few ripples and changes....
i can understand parents saying no dating until a certain age because a lot of us don't know what's right but as usual, we have to experience the "why not" before WE understand what they were talking about.
they love us but we don't see it until it's too late. believe me, i sure wish I would've listened to mom and dad on some things instead of doing it the hard way. because the hard way is definitely harder.

Perhaps it is based on the maturity of their child. Or maybe it is their own mistakes, their pasts that have made them so reluctant to let their child date at an early age. You should ask them sometime.

I was able to date at 14 but it was pointless and stupid and only burned some of my limited funds on what is of course a waste of time another girlfriend later I'm on a dating sabatical until I have actual money in my wallet and in the bank

All parents are trying to do is protect you....its nothing agaisnt you or the person that you want to date. Heck I made the personally choice not to date till I was 17, and this is the guy that I love. I decided to wait and lucked out on the first try. But if your parents dont want you to date yet, dont take it personally, you know they love seeing you happy they just dont want to see you in pain. As hard as it might be, just realize that they want the best for you and sometimes they know what that is, plus remember they too were teens once and they know just what the dating sceene is all about whether you believe it or not.

trust your parents....they are not dumb or oblivious, just protective of you.

Wow... astonishing "gooh"... Please check the Randomosity board for a thread entitled "Newbies: Rules of Play" or something along those lines, okay? Nobody here really appreciates this kind of IM-speak. Thanks.

I am going on 16 and my mom finaly lets me date i thought i would never date but i kinda did it be hind my parents back until now they no that i have a girlfriend named stacy.

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Originally posted by Y100Gothchick:
I think that it is piontless that my mother won't let me date 'till I'm 16. 16! What do you think? Does your mom or dad let you date?

From Y1001Gothchick

OMG! My mom won't let me date until I'm sixteen either! And I think it's absolutly pointless, because I've spent my entire life being drilled about the "safe sex = no sex" and "no drug" talks since I was like...six? But I see no reason about it. I just recently realized the kid I like likes me back. And tyrant mommy won't let me leave the house to the mall now, unless I'm with at least two other people, not counting the crush. It's fricking stupid!

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Hmmm My folks are pretty cool about this they say I can date any one whos my age to maybe a year older or younger sounds fair right? But heres the Kicker every time I say "I'm going on a date with so and so I must read a book in the new tesstament then talk to them aout dating and girls for the two hours before the date so the hand that givaeth really quckly puts a big fence in the way of reciveing.

Heh, I laughed for awhile when I read that. I never heard any parent do that.

Anyways, I am not much of a dater, I am not much of a go out type of person. It's not that I am anti-social. It's just, I don't want to deal with my mom every time I want to go on a date or out with some friends. I understand every time, I go out on a date or with friends, she should talk to me about what I can and cannot do. She should talk to me about things that would mainly keep me safe. I do listen to her and she has told me that so many times that I remember by heart, therefore she doesn't have to tell me. However, I don't mind her telling me again and again if it makes her feel better. The part that I can't stand though, is when she makes remarks like I am going to go have sex with any guy that is just there. I feel like she thinks that I am just going to do something bad when I am out. I know I made mistakes but I learned from theem and I know I can make better choices. Those remarks are what get me. I can stand her speech and I can stand calling her when I get to the place and leave the place, I can stand her wanting to drive me there and pick me up, I can stand her wanting to meet the people that I am going to hang out with, I could stand her over-all protectness. What I can't stand is when she makes remarks that she thinks I am just going to do something bad. The whole thing, I rather not deal with.

It's not all her fault though, I can try to go out more but I guess I'm too lazy to deal with her. I could go out, there is just a way of going out with my mom. You have to be very smart to get pass her, lol. I am too lazy to jump over hoops every time I want to go out. I can't just say, "Mom I'm going out, be back by 11"

GothicChick. don't worry, you will go out soon enough. I think it's best just to wait until your 16

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Originally posted by Y100Gothchick:
I think that it is piontless that my mother won't let me date 'till I'm 16. 16! What do you think? Does your mom or dad let you date?

From Y1001Gothchick

Yeah im 13 and she lets me date, my parents are really laid back about that stuff...

Hmmm My folks are pretty cool about this they say I can date any one whos my age to maybe a year older or younger sounds fair right? But heres the Kicker every time I say "I'm going on a date with so and so I must read a book in the new tesstament then talk to them aout dating and girls for the two hours before the date so the hand that givaeth really quckly puts a big fence in the way of reciveing.

Parents can't stop you from dating. I mean, yes, they can stop you from leaving their house to get in a car to go somewhere with someone. But you can still have a boyfriend and, like, spend time with him after school or something. They can't stop that. Now, I don't suggest this, but if you have really, really strict parents and you're like 14 and want a boyfriend but aren't allowed then this is a good plan for you.

Even if your parents set a set age at which they will allow you to date, if you are mature and close to the age (i.e. the age is 16, you're 14 or 15) and ask them in a very mature manner and tell them who the guy is, what you're going to be doing, where you're going to go, who is going to be there and you let them set the curfew (don't suggest one) then they might let you. They'll think that it's very mature of you to come to them and tell them all this information without pushing them into a decision and that maybe it's a sign that you're ready to date.

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Originally posted by hubbabaloo:
I can't date until I'm sixteen. Religious rules.

I wasn't supposed to be able to date until I was sixteen (it had nothing to do with religion, though) but I started "going out" with my boyfriend when I was 15 and a half ("going out" around here means he's your boyfriend, not necessarily that you have gone out somewhere). He was 17 and would be 18 in 3 months. I've always been a very mature person and so I begged my mom to let me to go to his youth group that Wednesday and to his house to see a movie that Friday. She finally decided to let me go out on dates with him because I had asked so maturely but she set an early curfew of 10pm. When I turned 16 - the age at which I was actually supposed to get to date - she set it back to 11pm. That way, she still sorta restricted me until I was 16 but still let me date.

My friend had her first boyfriend when she was twelve, and after making out with him 56 times (they counted), I asked her if she liked him. Her answer--"I don't know...I guess I should."
She is an awesome person, but I think that the pressure to have a boy friend / girlfriend is so huge that some people just want a bf/gf for the sake of having one. I guess that could be OK, but I would want someone to want to go out with me for ME, not for having a girlfriend.
About the parent subject...sometimes I do something my parent's tell me not to (i.e. watching TV the night before a final , etc) and I sort of don't like to admit it, but my parents are right a LOT about things, so I think I would trust their decision about dating age.

I can't date until I'm sixteen. Religious rules.