brokendreams21: just because a parent sets the dating age to 18 does not, in any way, shape, or form, mean that the kid will actually abide by it. Therefore, I disagree with you, because setting an age (aka a strict rule) does alot less in affecting how that child will look at dating, opposed to the parent(s) discussing with the child their own experiences and beliefs, which will go much farther in terms of benefitting that child. It's also rather lofty of you to assume that every single human being is ready to date at the age of 18, when many are mature enough to date before that time.
smileygrl810: sorry to burst your bubble, but you cannot stop nor prevent another person "from getting burned." Only that person's beliefs and standards can defend them and help the make decisions in terms of dating, because the fact of it is, we've all heard lectures and rants and facts when it comes to everything imaginable from teachers, parents, etc. In the end, only we can make decisons for ourselves which will direct the course of our lives since our parents cannot monitor our every move to make sure we are abiding by their rules.
vetiver: awesome answer.
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I think that it just depends on everyone's parents because everyone's parents were raised different. And however you parents were raised is how they will kind of raise you. They wont do everything their parent did but do you get my drift?
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Oh Umm Dating.... I have been dating since I was 13. My parents have never liked the fact that me nor my younger sister whos 14 now, are dating. I'm 16 right now, and the thing is that gets my parents ticked is that I date guys 2-3 years older then me. To me if you know in your heart and that wack thing called your mind (yes, your mind) that you aren't going to do anything then go for it. I have done stuff wiht my boyfriends,but not to go as far as get me pregnant. All of my friends have been dating since the time we were in 7th-8th grade, and we think that it's perfectly fine to date starting in Middle School, but in elementary school, NO!. The thing is in elementary school you have absolutly no idea what the Hell is going on, and playing with your emotions at a young age like that isn't safe. But I really think dating at 13 is perfectly fine, your not to young and not to old.
My dating age was 18.. I am 18 now. But I never listened to my mom I had a b/f in second grade. Bad thing too. He said we never dated and he cheated on me and said I was a liar. But then I was tough and I was like what ever. I haven't dated till I was about 16. I went with this guy for a few months. I had a dream about a break up and I told him he promised me it wouldn't happen. Well he lied right after a few days after prom he broke up with me. He did that two more times and then told me he planned it that way and everything. We were almost together for a year. He told people things and they made me to be the bad one and everything. It was sad. But I moved on after crying for two months. But I was stupid again and let him in my life again but later I found someone else I liked and he was showing that side like he said he loved me but really he did cus of the way he was acting and stuff. So I broke it off. He got mad but o well. Parents do that for a reason. I think all parents should set the dating age to 18.. it is the best..I regreted the times i date behind my mom's back..But now that I am 18 I can talk to my mom about instead of my friends. Cus then I could only say things to my friends cus I couldn't tell my mom. that's all I have to say..
One of the reasons that parents place an age on dating is because at the beginning of your teen years 99% of the time you are not ready for the emotional drainage that comes along with dating... Dealing with breakups is hell...getting mad at your crush is hell... Everything is sooo much work and at such a young age you are not emotionally or mentally ready for it. Seriously, I know. But when you get older and have a little more life experience you'll be ready and if u do break it off with your lover you'll wont be crying to your mommy.
I'm 16 and my parents are just starting to feel comfortable with me dating, but the thing is, I don't want to go out with guys right now... I'm just way to busy with basketball and my own life to be fooling around with someone else's.
But about the parents: EVERYONE, absolutely everyone thinks that they do not know what they are talking about. I even think that sometimes, but one thing that you guys gotta remember is that they only do what's best for YOU. Not them. They're not yelling at you and trying to teach you things for their health. They do that becuase they care for you... so what if they wont let you date before you 16...? big deal. You'll spend a lot of quality time with the person you like and really get to know him or her. So what's the plus side? If you realize that that person is not right for you, you still have your friendship and have successfully avoided a potentially crushing breakup.
I made that mistake of not listening to my parents about dating. At first, I thought they were being mean and didn't know him like I did. The fact was that he was a jerk, and they knew it before I did. He told that he loved me, that he was single and still a virgin; yet his supposed ex- girlfriend called house and says that she was going out w/ him when I was and not only that but had a child w/ him.He lied and told the girlfriend a bunch of crap and made me out to be the bad guy and we aren't even going out. he got mad cause he wanted to come back to me when this other he liked dropped him but it was too late for him.Now, the irrational girl wants to fight me when I had no part in the issue at all. Not only that, but he is mean to me when he was the one who broke up w/ me! So please, listen to you parents, even if it doesn't right now, it will be. If their wrong, it's not going to hurt YOU! I just hope I can stop someone else from getting burned like I am before it's toolate. All my problems could have been avoided it I had listened to them. Now I'm trying to prevent someone else from making the same mistake. It's all just a bunch of hassle anyways. Just wait until the time is right. By then you'll know.
haha yeah right. I dated a guy in 7th grade, and when he asked me to go to the movies with him, I was extatic! We went, watched the movie, and came home. Hell, i thought it went well! But then when he broke up with me because I didnt make a move on HIM at the movie, I was devistated. He was the only guy id ever liked!
I was 14. Like i would ever make a move on a guy while im that young. Im 16 now, and I havent dated since. Hell. It feels good to be 16 and never kissed. Proud of it. so, when you ask if dating until your 16 is bad, from me? Hell no. Dont worry about it. What, your going to live till your 80 anyway, you cant wait until your 18?
But hell, its your life, and you do whatever you want.
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I felt sort of lucky after I read all the other posts.My mom trusts me totally.She doesn't worry about me dating.I recently fell in love with a boy(it's really true love.I'm sure of it.)She finally found out and she didn't make a big deal of it.She said"I like his parents.It might be fun to have them as family.:-)"He likes me back and I'm sure he's on the verge of loving me.I don't care about anyone else.The only time anyone asked me out was just to be stupid.
Relationships can put a lot of pressure on you. Most people like it better when they are single. I find myself thinking about suicide or cutting less when i'm not in a relationship. On the other hand, a relationship can save your life. It depends on if you think you are ready for dating and breakups and **** like that.
all u kids need to take it from me. dating isn't what it's all cracked up to be. there are serious consequences and you don't want to make a mistake like that. i'd listen to yor parents. i think that 14 is a good age. just don't rush it enjoy the time you have for yourself now, trust me you'll want it in the future. i should know.
I agree with all the others my parents does not allow dating simply because it can get you in trouble and you want be focus in your books. I think its is okay if you go out on a date with a group of friends but my parents aint going for that. I also think you should be at least 14 or older to date because dating is all about trust and responibilty if your parents can`t trust you to clean your room and do your house chores and get good grades in school (A`s and B`s)you should not be dating.
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Parents, unfortunately, have the indisputable right to put whatever restrictions on their children that they want, so long as it doesn't physically harm anyone. *sighs* What lovely teen angst you've got there...
personally i think that third-graders should not be dating- whatever you wanna call it, anything beyond chasing each other on the playground is too much around that age. however, i think that once you get to 8th or 9th grade its okay to start "going out"- like maybe group dates or something. although maybe i wouldnt know, seeing as my parents wont even let me ask a guy friend to come to a mixer with me!
at my school "going out" just means boyfriend and girlfriend. ur not necessarily dating. the longest ive ever had a boyrien is a day. i just landed on planet teen so im figurin things out as i go along
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