hehe...why do you guys care? your just another plug into the corperate hog we call abercrombie and fitch or American Eagle. You strive for a relationship yet you don't know the meaning of that word. Are you really going to end up with that 14yr old dweeb that your secretly dating behind your parents' back anyway? Probably not! ok im sick of stating my oppinion...time to do something productive with my life. p.s. GET RID OF YOUR AOL INSTANT MESSENGER SCREEN NAME AND TALK TO PEOPLE THE OLD FASHIONED WAY...I THINK IT WAS CALLED A TELEPHONE!
Well, I'm 14, and I have no interests for dating right now or anytime soon. My mom couldn't tell me what to do either way (she knows I won't listen), but I have no interest in the guys my age... They're all like babies. I don't think it's possible that I could find one mature enough for me. But the truth is that not all people are like me. Not all people should be like me. People can't all live the same modern ideal life. And it's natural. If someone wants to have a child at my age, that's their own choice. Some people grow up and never mature or never care about the things I care about like love or intelligence, but that's the result of having a world of diversity. I think the best thing is to just encourage the young people to protect themselves. That's how my dad taught me, and that's why I feel the way I do.
I have to agree with everyone who thinks that parents are afraid of us making their mistakes. Every teenage is diffirent. I am 15 and i havent really dated yet. My parents say I cant date untill I am 16 but they kinda let me do it any way. Some teens may make bad choices with dating but that is a part of growing up. If you are not allowed to make mistakes how will you know what is right or what to do.
I don't really think you should wanna date yet (talking to the girls)these boys are in their little moments and they are experimenting and they might wanna do things or say things they don't know what their doing or talking about. I'm not saying all boys are like that,but now most of them are so i'm just observing them and noticing things.
My mom says that I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16, which is going to be soon, but my lack of dating isn't because of that. I don't fall for guys easily...I'm judgemental and cynical enough with friends, much less someone who should be my second half, so I figure why waste your time if you don't think it'll amount to anything anyway? I think high schoolers (and some middle schoolers) never have real relationships anyway. Having shallow relationships with no real foundation isn't going to help them find their soulmate any faster than me. People are just stupid, basically.
I think that parents have diffrent reasons. My mom told me that the reason that she won't let me date right now (I'm 14 and in the ninth grade) is because she thinks that I am too young and she wants me to concentrate on schoolwork. I know that these are the reasons because my mom tells me the truth when I ask for it if it's ok for me to know.
Well it really varies from parent to parent. My parents never really said when since I never asked when, and I think the first boy I "went out with" was in sixth grade. They haven't known about any of the guys I've dated, and they wouldn't care if they did, I don't think.
Often parents just don't want their kids to run into so many of the issues running wtih teens these days, such as sex "too young" and/or teen pregnancy and/or STDs. It is, I think, a very legitimate want to keep you child away from that, but many parents go over the top. I think they should let their kids decide when they're ready to date and such, but, as awkward as it is, make sure they know the consequenses (or possible ones) of going too far, sexually or other wise at their age.
I think it's fine to go on dates like those you mentioned (bowling, etc). I'm talking about serious dating like going to a movie and making-out in the back. Kids shouldn't be doing that.
I think another problem is that the younger kids think that they *have* to date the kids they like. They don't understand that they can just be really good friends.
Xia: Oh, I definitely agree that alot of younger kids don't have sound judgement to discern whether they're in a healthy relationship or not. but then, alot of people who are in unhealthy relationships, at any age, don't realize it. : /
also, i thought this was an interesting point: when younger teens "date" they go bowling, or to a movie, or out for pizza with their friends, right? its all a bit un-serious. thats probablly the the level that most kids that age are ready for. and the ones that are more mature usually move up to the next stages of a relationship on their own. i mean, younger teens are maybe immature, but they're not idiots... you kinda just figure it out on your own. hmm, im not sure what point i was making here... lol. but there it is!
I know people mature at different rates. I look at half the girls in my grade as proof of that.
But don't forget that girls mature a lot sooner than guys (not all guys, remember, when I make generalizations, there are always exceptions). They're too busy playing video games and hanging on to those stupid "Uranus" jokes to be wanting to date girls.
Fetch: I was dating the second guy I mentioned at the end of 10th grade. I'm not saying that dating in highschool is bad, I'm saying before you hit highschool is.
Everything's too spread out where I live to be able to walk places together. Besides, it's way too dangerous (or at least, I think so).
Audreee: I'm 16 now and a Junior in highschool. ^__^
shineglistenglo: I think that dating is a great experience getter, but kids should have more life experience before they date. Some kids don't understand what players are, or they think their abusive bf is what all their bfs are going to be like.
We all make mistakes, but relationship mistakes hurt the most (not necessarily bf/gf ones, mostly frienship ones, and yes, I do talk from experience). People should live and learn, but they shouldn't want to grow up so fast.
I think it's sad that kids want to seriously date younger and younger. Kids should be focusing on having fun (not fun revolving around guys) and working on their school work. School work gets you places; bfs/gfs don't. Enjoy being little while you can, you'll miss it when you get older.
i guess some of you dont remember whta it was like to be 16/ well i do, and pretty vividly. and i remember that not only was i mature enough to date, but i was far more mature than many of my older conterparts. age is just a number. i know that sounds cliche, but honestly it is. different people mature at different rates, and saying that all 16 year olds are alike is like saying all people who like pickles are alike. its a stupid generalization. plus, the only way to mature and grow is through experience, the more oppourtunities one has to meet new people and get to know them and get to know what they like in other people and what they dont like the better (woah run on sentence) like does anyone remember their first boyfriend? remember how *dumb* you probablly acted around them? or all the stupid relationship mistakes you made? well if u hadnt made them then, u would be making them now. and if u hadnt made those mistakes then, you wouldnt have learned HOWto be mature. get what im saying? again, age = just a #
i havent been asked, and if i was interested in someone, there would always be the chance that theyre straight. "hi, how are you. are you a lesbian." isnt my idea of a topic starter.
haha..how old r u anyway????! well....just don't tell her. i might sound bad by saying this, but its just a date. it's not like your together or gonna hav sex or anything. dates r just 4 fun. its not having a boyfrend or nothing....so just go on and hav fun. and besides, if u did get a bf at an early age,, the more times u get hurt by love or false alarm love, the smarter u will get in choosing yo man or girl..
Xia: My friend started dating her boyfriend at the end of ninth grade. On Sunday we're going into eleventh and they're still together.
Driving: you could walk plsces, or date someone older.
sexually mature: my friend got her period in fifth grade. People mature at different speeds. And just because you can't get someone pregnant doesn't mean you can't be emotionally mature.
I think anything under 16 is too young. Like someone else pointed out, you can't drive. Would you like going to the movies when your boyfriend's mom drives you there?
Also, kids aren't mature enough to handle dating until they are older. Sure, there are rare cases of incredibly mature kids. But, like I said, it's rare. It's also rare to find true love at a young age (like 12).
I don't think little kids (anyone under 16) can really recognize what true love is. I've known girls who think they're "in love," but in reality, it's just another crush. One of the 200 crushes they've had that year.
The first guy I met that I honestly and truly liked, I never advanced with. I love him as a friend, but not as a boyfriend. I met another guy, who is also great. We talked for hours online and at school, we dated, and we broke up (because of his parents). Over this last summer we didn't talk alot, but now that school has started up, we've started talking again. I know he has feelings, and I have feelings. I know I love him, but I don't know if it's just friendship or true love.
If I can't tell true love apart from friendship love at 16, then you sure as hell can't when you're 11. Some people can never tell.
Besides, you haven't even hit puberty when you reach 11. Geez. Can't any of you think of anything else but boys/girls? (and don't tell me, "ya, of courz i do! i think of skool + stuff!")
Concentrate on your life. Be who YOU want to be, not who your bf/gf wants you to be. You don't need someone else to cling to. And NEVER base ANY of your big, life-altering choices on a boyfriend/girlfriend (you should only do that when you're married and you kinda have to). [by life-altering choices, I mean something like changing schools to be with your boyfriend or quitting school to live with your girlfriend.]
Well, I think that's all I have to say about this so far.
How do i know what love is? I read it in a dictionary...
And who are YOU to tell me i don't know what love is. YOU are the only point of view you will ever have on the truth of love at a young age. How can YOU tell if somebody else truly deeply feels love for another, if you are not inside their mind? Just because you haven't felt it at a young age (which i'm assuming you haven't, because you believe it doesn't exist), doesn't mean it's not there. And you will never be able to truly know until you feel it for yourself.
Besides, the point of my post was not on if love at a young age was real or not. It was saying that parents controlling their child's dating only stops the title, and not the feeling in which was initially sought after through their restrictions. Replace "love" with "have feeling for" or something if you just can't bring yourself to accept young love in order to listen to the REAL point of my post.
Your 16! and want to date. i am 18 and had only one girlfriend. we dated and wanted to get married. we got engaged and all he** broke loose. she lied to me about being a virgin. and being christian as a matter of a fact. I learned a valuble lesson. not to trust girls. the age most people get married is at the age of 25.now you just want to date and have a boyfriend right? well I beieve i would been able at your age to date but i have one thing to say to you. *wait* just have boy *friends* and dont get serious till your atleast 20. I know its hard but trust me. wait. have friends hang out dont do anything stupid, and be yourself. you have a long life ahead of you. learn your heart out. make goals for your life and live. and dont rush into anything. Like i said it will be hard knowing yout a teenager and you are going through a lot of emotions, and not to say hormones as well. but listen to your parents. *even though they seem like they dont know what they are talking about* they know how it was being a kid. they just act grown-up about it. believe me you will pull through.
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