See: my grandparents are coming out in about 10 days, they last saw us in July 04. And for most people/families this would be a happy time.. but my grandparents are not like most..

See: My mom was born the "Black Sheep" of the family my grandma had a boy and a girl , so my mom was kinda of "Opps" thing. And she was always in the shawdow of her brother and sister.
And that has fell on to us kids, my grandma wants me to be just like my cusin Cindy who goes to High School, Cheer Leader and in many school clubs.. then theres me Home-School witch my grandparents can not stand, and put me down cause of it .. I mean they say things I would hear from kids.

But the thing that hurts the most, is they are only grandparents when thay want to be.. there was many times in my life I needed a grandparent to be at my side Or my mom/dad needed someone to lean to.. Like when I was in & out of hospital. But they disowned us at the most hurtful & stressful times. And believe me i want to forgive them really I do but then they do something to hurt me even more and it makes it harder and harder to forgive.

And I know when they come we'll all be acting they will take part has "Great Grandparents" and I'll be takin the role as "Prefect GrandKid"
And when they leave....... it will start agin

I have kinda adopted grandparents, We ment them when lived in VA, they treated us like real grandkids.. and I still remain friends

The thing to remember is that we just have to do the best with the situations we are given.

Since it is your grandparents you don't have a good connection with, maybe try to find an "adopt a grandparent" program, or just head on over to a local nursing home/assisted living center. Talk to someone who works there and see if they can recommend someone who doesn't get a lot of family visits who would like to talk to you. Older people LOVE to have youngsters come and talk to them; they like hearing about your life, telling stories, giving advice...they will start looking forward to your visits, and you will probably find that you feel really good when you are there with them.

I know it's not the same as having a blood relative grandparent who has always been there for you, but I really do hope you try out my advice...at least go one time, see how it goes. You might just find that you are a lot happier...and maybe it will make things easier when you try to communicate with your real grandparents. If nothing else, you will make some elderly person's day.