My parents are currently "separated" because my dad is back home (Puerto Rico) while me, my brother, and my mom are in Florida. This has been going on for a year and 5 months since my dad is currently working there. Problems started a couple of months ago (atleast that's when I noticed them). The thing is that my mom seems to believe that my dad is cheating on her. I honestly don't think so, because he's my dad, and I know it sounds stupid and immature but I just can't picture him doing something like that and then being able to come here and look at all of us in the face.

This "belief" of hers is really starting to affect the family. Not really my brother, bcz I think he doesn't even notice it, but I do. I have been listening to the way she talks to him and its as though she hates every second of it. Last night just...that was it for me. What happened was that he called me at around 11am and told me to tell my mom that he was going out and that he wasn't going to have a signal there. (I understand that bcz that's the way it is back home, sometimes cell phones just don't work). So I said ok and went back to sleep. (I'm sorry I'm making this so long but I want you all to get a good picture of whats going on). When I woke up my mom was mad as heck bcz my puppy had done something and she was mad. She didn't even say good morning to me or anything and she was already yelling at me. But what ever, that doesn't apply here. Well, later on that morning after I had changed and stuff I heard my mom talking to my dad, after she was done she looked at me and said "he told u to tell me he wouldn't have a signal, but when I call him he picked up the phone". I seriously don't think that's bad, I think thats good, it would have been worse if he didn't pick up, but what ever.

Later that night my mom told me that if my dad called I should tell him that she was asleep bcz she didn't want to talk to him. I told her I thought she was being ridiculous with the whole situation, it turned into an argument. She said that he shouldn't be going out like he was still a single man, bcz he wasn't. I told her that it wasn't fair for him to stay in my grandma's house all day in his free days with her bothering him ALL the time (and trust me, I know how that is). Long story short she thought it wasn't fair for him to be able to go out whenever he wanted like he was single, when she couldn't. When I talked to my dad I asked him where he had been and what he had done and stuff, he told me he went to Nauguabo (which was a totally different place which he originally told me he was going). I wouldn't have thought anything of it but my mom has been putting so much stuff in my head that I think he went to a whole different place. This is really driving me crazy, I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should talk to either of them or just step back and let them handle it. My uncle says I should talk to my dad and straighten this out. But I'm afraid my mom will find out and think I went behind her back and I don't want that, bcz even though I know I complain about her alot I love her and I don't want to see her hurt. Please, help me decide what to do.

-Serena

Well, he is the machista type in some things but in others he's kinda understanding. Celtic, does Nauguabo have a beach? I'm from there I lived there 13 yrs but I never really learned the cities and stuff...when u live there and don't think you'll ever leave...u kinda don't care.

But anyways, new question, do u guys think he should have a say in what happens around the house even though he doesn't "live" here anymore?

-Serena

He's Puerto Rican? Oh, crap, if he's the traditional machista Puerto Rican male, he IS cheating on your mom.

He's in Naguabo? Let me explain Naguabo to you: nothing. It's the Puerto Rican version of redneck America. I doubt he went there unless he has family there.

Ouch
I'm sorry this is happenin to ya, I hate to see families go through stuff like this.
In all honesty, it sounds like your mom might have a reasonable suspicion of your dad. That doesn't mean he is cheating, but it bears further investigation.
I think if I were you, I'd find a counselor to talk to (you can call the non-emergency number for the police and they can help you), and maybe try to get your parents to see a marriage counselor.
I hope this helps, but if ya need to vent or anything my screen name is MissingPerson585 if ya ever need someone to listen.