It can be a very bothersome experience for some and others find it to be one of the worst thing that can ever happen under your roof, depending on the severity. I'm not talking about when parents merely disagree but more of a dispute where they shout at each other the very least (and we all know it sure as heck can get worse). So what was it like for you? How did you handle the situation? Did you try to intefere or just lock yourself in your room? What did you do to block out their shouts?

I got out of the house usually unless it got severe and I couldn't leave, then i'd just make sure my siblings were safe. I would give them cd players and make them listen to it loud. I could ignore all that **** that was going on, my sibs couldn't. i used a cd player or just the outdoors to block out the shouts and whatever (the sound or stuff breaking). I just ignored the situation, interfering got me thrown into a wall once and my knee dislocated, which i got on a regular basis anyways, so why bother asking for more pain? It's easier to stay out of something that doesn't directly involve you..........

My mom and my dad used to be pretty passive agressive about fighting, they would snipe at each other through me. It was the worst.

I don't talk to my mom anymore, but my dad and my stepmom fight now. A lot of is about me. They do it in Hebrew, which they think I can't understand, but in reality I catch about half of it. Enough to get the gist, anyway.

My dad is really quiet and reasonable when he fights, while my stepmom explodes. If I'm not a part of the fight, which is rare, I just go around being happy that I'm for once not involved.

When my parents fight, I go into my room, cry and talk to and pet my hamster. Either that or hide by a wall or the top of the stairs. That's just my way. They are still together, and you can still tell that they love each other, but they have fights. I think that the worst fight ever was when my dad told my mom that if she didn't love him, she could leave. That didn't go far, but it was really sad.

my parents are divorced. AND they still fight ALL the time. ANd drag me into it. /its so Fing annoying.

btw..how do u start a board anyway?

My parents always argued with each other. It's been happening since they're married for 20 years. There's nothing I could do but stay out of the heat until it cools down. How did they solve the problem? Divorce.

My stepmother and my dad argue a lot. My stepmom is really the one who does. She yells, slams doors...it's very upsetting. I guess I've just gotten used to it. I keep watching television or whatever I'm doing, block it out of my head as much as I'm able...it's difficult though and it's sad that some of us have to live with it.

My parents didn't usually argue with each other, they argued with us. The yelling can get really loud, even more so if my mom is arguing with my brother. Now it's pretty much the same thing as it was back home (puerto Rico) bcz my dad was never really in the house except at nights. But...I just turn my music up and try to ignore it if not I just say I'm going to my aunt's house or something. It can be pretty hard to ignore it though, and it really gets to you after a while.

-Serena

My parents used to fight pretty much all the time I hated it. I use to sit in my room and listen to music. The volume was up really loud, I couldn't hear them and that was fine with me. My older brother usually was doing the same thing. They don't fight as much anymore, but they still fight. It's annoying. When friends are over they sometimes have to listen to an arguement. That's embarrassing. I hated it then and I still do now...

I just sit at the top of the stairs, listening in and run into my run and hideu nder the covers of my bed when I see their shadows comming up.

Childish, maybe, but I can't help it. It's like an ugly car crash where you think/know it's horrible, and yet you just can't turn away.

As for interfering, the few times I did I got hurt, so I just try and back away/become invisible now.

As for music, I can't turn it on because once my dad actually BROKE my stereo in his rage, so now I just, as I said, kind of huddle up and try to stay unnoticed.

Then of course I have to go comfort my little sister, but even she's gotten used to it now. The problem with her is that she AGRAVATES it all. Like throwing salt on a wound.

**rolls eyes** It's sad really. That they, the adults, throw such childish temper tantrums. Even when I have company over. It's ridiculous, embarrassing and I hate it. I hate them.

I used to leave my house......make sure my siblings were out too......either that or have a very loud cd player on with my headphones. My parents sometimes got violent back when they were living together, so.........yeah.

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Originally posted by TheFallenAngel:
So what was it like for you? How did you handle the situation? Did you try to intefere or just lock yourself in your room? What did you do to block out their shouts?

What it's like for me is that my mom and dad don't actually fight. You see, their divorced and I hear it on both ends. My mom will talk about my dad and how much she detests him and my dad will do the same thing. On top of that, my dad and my stepmom have the occassional arguement. I just ignore the comments my parents make about each other and I try when I can to keep my half brother from hearing the arguing. They're better about it now though.