do you think your parents expected way too much from you? (just curious, because my parents do!)

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Originally posted by LoveTheRainbow:

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have you tried talking to her about it? You have to be nonthreatening when you do it, but I really believe that many parent-child conflicts are because of a lack of communication.

That doesn't always work. I have the same problem with my stepmom and if I try to explain my side I often get in trouble for "back talking"

yea its true, I try that with my mom and grandpartents and get yelled at for 'back talking' when im just trying to get my story and theirs straight, that or just trying to clear it all off, but a majority of parents and adults dont want to listen or are afraid to lisen I think. they want us to stay this way forever, young, niave, and not think for ourselves, and thats just a load of bs

I find that people in general (including adults) will only do just below whats expected of them. If you are not demanding enough of someone, its likely they are not going to try very hard. People don't tend to try very hard for just themselves because its so hard to think long-term, especially young adults. Today kids are viewed as lazy and uninterested in school, and we've formed into what we're viewed as.

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That doesn't always work

I know that, but a lot of kids don't even try. I'm just offering out a possible suggestion. If it works, good, if not, things cant be that much worse.

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have you tried talking to her about it? You have to be nonthreatening when you do it, but I really believe that many parent-child conflicts are because of a lack of communication.

That doesn't always work. I have the same problem with my stepmom and if I try to explain my side I often get in trouble for "back talking"

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but then when i make the smallest mistake she always like lectures me for 2 hours no matter where i am am or who i'm with.

have you tried talking to her about it? You have to be nonthreatening when you do it, but I really believe that many parent-child conflicts are because of a lack of communication.

i think my mom expects too much of me. she always says i don't need to be perfect, but then when i make the smallest mistake she always like lectures me for 2 hours no matter where i am am or who i'm with.

my mom and i are always bumping heads... tonight we got into the biggest fight ever, and to be honest i dont even feel bad about it... yeah i cried but not in front of her. she's left the house like she always does. she probably went to her boyfriends house. you know this is my senior year and im suposed to be having fun but instead i cry myself to sleep at night with no one there to comfort me. before "she" had left, i told her that i couldnt take it any more and i wanted to go live with my dad... he lives an hour away from me... so this means i cant go to my school and graduate with all the people i grew up with (my FRIENDS) man i dont know what to do...

I know that my dad doesn't anymore. I've made it that way to have my fun in my teenage years.

When I lived with my mother she expected me to keep straight A's, play a sport, work, have rich friends, hot boyfriend, keep the house spotless and almost be my younger sister's mother.

She made sure I knew this too.

Though now it doesn't matter what anyone expects from me, I expect from myself is worse then anything my mother could have. I expect perfect, and nothing less.

My parents don't expect a lot from me, they just expect me to do what I'm supposed to do. I used to think that they expected too much from me like to get good grades and such but now I see that they're just happy as long as I'm happy.

I used to think my mom had high expectations of me.

Now my expectations of myself exceed those of my parents. I'm one of those "I'm my own worst enemy" type of people...and I'm grateful to my parents for pushing me when I was younger.

My mom expects a lot of me around the house, but she forks over the tuition money every month...so I'm not complaining.

Parents always project thier own desires and aims on thier children. -Brehon

That is so true! My mom is a huge horse person, and I hate horses. Because of this, she hates me.

Parents always project thier own desires and aims on thier children. It is natural; also difficult to avoid difficult to avoid during the formative years.

Naw my parents dont care what i do so long as im alive.

My mom does expect a lot of me. She's a mom, it's kind of in the job description. But even my successes and doing things her way doesn't please her.
But when I do something that shows a minor lack of good judgement, like not do my history homework because I was on the computer before starting it, she gets pissed.
Parent pressure will always be there, and I think that often the best thing to do is to realize that parents/family will always be a part of you, whether they screw you up or support you with whatever you do.

You're gonna move out and live life completely on your own soon enough, so just quit your whining and enjoy what life with them has to offer to you while you still can take advantage of it.

My parents expect a lot out of me, but that's expected I suppose. My dad has a PhD and my mom whatever a four or six year degree is, in like, three things. I have a B in geometry at the moment. My first B. Well, yes, I got "the lecture." Y'know, "It's okay if this is all you can do, but I think you're capable of more. You don't study enough." etc, etc. I love my parents for pushing me, though, because education, experience, and oppurtunities are extremly important to me. I'd slack off if it weren't for them.

My grandparents on the other hand:

they believe I should be just like my cusin's, and their great life. And since Im homeschooled im not normal!. they wanted me to go to high school and start cheer-ledering just like my sucin Cindy~. In there eyes i'll never be what they want cause, I chose to stay homechooled, and i hate Cheerledering.. I like watching baseball

I hate my mom. She talks about my weight as though she is perfect. I joinded a weight loss program just so she would shut the f*** up!! I will be going to college in the fall and as far as I'm concerned, it would not have come soon enough. I never smoke or drink or party or date...ever. Its just never good enough for her. She dosn't like to listen to anyone else but damn herself.I don't even have a curfew when I'm done with school or work I always come straight home. When I dissagree with her she calls me ungrateful. She is a bitch. She will always be a bitch. The funny thing about her is that I am the only family she has in the whole country and even though I'm going to college she still dosn't know how to be kind to the only person she has left. My mom is not just a bith but a very stupid one.

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Originally posted by ruthibel:
who cares what they expect? What do you expect from yourself??? There, then that's all that matters....

But while we're under their rooves, parents, i think, just expect us to do well - regardles of everything else, they just expect you to somehow miraculously be the best and work our hardest. But then, is that soo much to ask?

Exactly...

my parents are pretty liberal when it comes to that..though i hate it when my mum to an extent tries to live her dreams through me and sister ...