i hate my mom too!she told that today i had to where a sweater and its like 90 degress out!she is ruining my life!

i hate my mom too. she's always getting on my nerves. she blames me for everything.! even things im not capable of. she is just so so so so so mean. i never even get to hang out. i hate her. i hate her. i hate her. i hate her. i hate her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know what you two are talking about. This thread is a fountain of brilliant advice.

Whoa, yeah. That's some pretty bad advice there. I agree with you, Meg.

DISCLAIMER:

I personally wouldn't take the advice of some random person from some forum who I've never met before. If you are having family issues, you should either talk to another family member or someone from school or from your community you trust. Running away really is not a pleasant option.

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Originally posted by YouthVoice:
[QUOTE]stop being 5 years old and talk to her, all this is just hormones and stress from socitey on you and HER. get over yourself.[/QUOT

I agree. You never know what you have until you loose it.

And peccadillo, I'm very sorry that you and your family are going through that. My best wishes to you, your mother and the rest of you family.

Look, here is what u gotta do. You need to get all your stuff together, and somehow get some money. Then, get your mom to let you go to your friends house, and say you will walk. Then when you leave, take all your stuff and leave. Then don't go to your friends house, go anywhere u want to go. Hotel works for sleeping. I have tried this and it works. I eventually wanted to come home so i came back home and got in a heap of trouble. So dont plan on coming back. GOOD LUCK!!

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stop being 5 years old and talk to her, all this is just hormones and stress from socitey on you and HER. get over yourself.

I agree. You never know what you have until you loose it.

And peccadillo, I'm very sorry that you and your family are going through that. My best wishes to you, your mother and the rest of you family.

My mom has a terminal illness. She was diagnosed when i was like 12, 13 and now I'm 18, oldest of 3 kids. I used to argue with my dad a lot and he said some pretty cruel things to me, but hes depressed. the love of his life is dying and no one can do anything about it.

she probably wont see my graduate college, let alone give her blessing on the man i choose to marry, to help me pick out baby clothes, to tell me what to eat when im pregnant, to help me through my midlife crisis.


stop being 5 years old and talk to her, all this is just hormones and stress from socitey on you and HER. get over yourself.

Me, who has in no way gotten along with her parents over the last 2-3 years can say I don't hate them. Sure they've done some very horrible things to me, and made my life almost unbearable. BUT, even though they did this, I still care about them, still love them, and still try to fix things between us.

Sometimes you have to look back and wonder why your parents are treating you the way they do. I mean, for my parents, my mom being kidnapped by her dad from her mom when she was 8, having him die when she was 13, then living with her insane mom and abusive step dad till she was 16 then living on her own after that(and numerous other things) was hard. And so I can understand when she's irrational, mean she has a lot of her own baggage she has to carry, its not always easy to deal with mine.

Although its not always easy, thats how I try and look at things. People are usually the way they are for a reason.

I never had any friction with my parents as a teenager, youths grow up with an idea that parental friction is inevitable, which it isn't.

A total lack of respect for parents who usually know best is the cause, it creates teenagers who can't deal with authority figures, and that is bad for society.

Speaking from experience, I think we as teenagers are going through so many changes all all at once, and tend to feel so confused about who we are, or who we want to be that we just assume that our parents are out to get us. And you know what you're doing when you assume. I think that sometimes it just requires us taking a step back, shedding all of our preconceived notions about how our parents are out to ge us and try to see it all from their prospective. I mean we're not exactly living in the ages where we can leave our doors unlocked and our guard down. Leaveing out of the house is a risk, going to school is a risk. I mean teen pregnancies are up, teens are drinking, smoking doing all types of things that they shouldn't be and I think that a lot of parents are just scared. I mean we're not exactly the most open bunch of people.

We like to keep things to ourselves understandably, but it can still be a scary thing knowing all the influences out there, know that at anytime your child could be at a place where a pissed off teen decides to bring a gun, a place where someone can offer you drugs and not having enough confidence to know if you'll be safe or not. So what do they do, they tighten the reigns on us, and whenever they feel we may be getting too far they yank us back a little. The best way to get them to loosen the reigns is to show them that you can be responsible, that your word is your bond, gain that trust. If you say you'll be home at a certain time be there. If you say you're going to do something, do it. Be truthful. Be honest. Be respectful and I can almost guarantee that you'll notice a change. Because as we change, then they have to change especially as their seeing a positive difference.

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Why does every one hate there parents during their teen years?

Well, not every one. But I think some teenagers do because they feel misunderstood and therefore frustrated. I never hated my parents. But I know many who felt that no one cared about them or that everything their parents did was to make them suffer or to cause more stress in their lives. I suspect many parents feel the same way about their kids.

Why does every one hate there parents during their teen years?

I HATE MY MOM TOO. I HATE HER SO MUCH. SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE RUNNING AWAY. but then i wonder where i should go and where i can have a better future and i no thats not possible. This makes me even feel more miserable cause then i know im stuck with her. My mom always discourages and she has to have control IN EVERY FRIGIN ASPECTED OF MY FUKIN LIFE. i tmakes me soooooooo mad. you would think that she just wanted to protect me BUT THATS NOT IT. SHE JUST HATES ME. THERES NOT ONE DAY WHEN I DONT HTINK ABOUT RUNNING AWAY. i feel so angry thining about her . NEVER SEEN SUCH A FUKIN STUBBORN lady.
sorry i have to get this all out. i just fought with my mom and im sooooo mad right now. Dont runaway. Its pointless ur just gonna end up having a bad future. the way i see it im gonna make my mom's life hell too. im gonna get bak at her. EVEN if my mom saw this forum she still wouldnt understand how frustrated and mad i am. i just hate her. and sometimes it even makes me sad cause i think that i am pretty selfish and arrogant for hating my own mom. My mom is not even a protective kind of person. She always pushes me to got to school even when if its obvious that im FUKIN SIK. AND SHES A NUIRSE!!!!!!!!!!its just horrible living with her. i mostly feel sad when i fight with her. I tried to sit and talk with her but SHE JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND. STUBBORN LITTLE BITCH. i wish i had a better mom. i really wish i had a better mom YOU SHOULD SEE HOW MAD SHE GETS. ONE TIME INSTEAD OF DOING MY HW I PLAYED SOME GAMES and then in she comes barging in and insulting me. AND WE HAD AN ARGUMENT FOR LOIKE AN HOUR. AAAAAAAAAAh if only i could make her understand IF ONLY SOMETHING WENT DOWN THAT THIK SKULL OF HERS.

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Originally posted by YNmod1:
Plus, discussions -- even resolved ones -- can be of a lot of value to people who want to learn things and gain perspectives about different topics. Plus, time and thought goes into writing all these posts, and I think a lot of people would be upset if we just axed threads once they were "solved." This is why we generally don't close such threads unless the person who started the thread makes a direct request for the thread to be closed. Unless Triss meant locking them or deleting certain excess posts or something by "clean up"...I'm kind of unsure.

Meh it was more of a thought in general, just wondering and asking questions. I'm still fairly new here... surpringly enough. Not even 2 months

hmmm....she's probably just wanting to protect you, like all mothers do. But, sueing is one step too far, that I agree with. Running away won't solve anything, how will you live? where will you go?

Sit your mother down and be an adult, once you act like an adult then maybe she'll treat you like one and give you space. Tell her how you feel and that you think you shouldn't be too tied down by her.

Not only could that solve a few issues but it could make your mother/daughter bond better. I know that there are a lot of mothers that are mean and such but most mothers love their children. I'm sure your mother loves you and is just wanting the best for you, if she's not...then tell an adult. Like I said, running away will solve nothing.

If people would just let old ones die it wouldn't be a problem... and you're right Mod1.

Plus, discussions -- even resolved ones -- can be of a lot of value to people who want to learn things and gain perspectives about different topics. Plus, time and thought goes into writing all these posts, and I think a lot of people would be upset if we just axed threads once they were "solved." This is why we generally don't close such threads unless the person who started the thread makes a direct request for the thread to be closed. Unless Triss meant locking them or deleting certain excess posts or something by "clean up"...I'm kind of unsure.

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Originally posted by Trisscar:
Quick question:

Is it possible for Mods to do a clean up off all old threads that are now irrelevant and never posted on? - Just a thought. Since lots of threads (Like this one) no longer read by the original thread starter.

If people really feel strong about a subject they can then make new threads about the same thing that are more relevant.

Some times they do, but they have a lot of stuff to look after so things like this that aren't actually bad get left.

Quick question:

Is it possible for Mods to do a clean up off all old threads that are now irrelevant and never posted on? - Just a thought. Since lots of threads (Like this one) no longer read by the original thread starter.

If people really feel strong about a subject they can then make new threads about the same thing that are more relevant.