Sorry about your mom, if I were you, I would talk to her. I mean really talk to her, I think she is just really scared for you although she does seem really really strict and controlling.
Sunset ur a sooo fucking anoying...we get that ur mom died, im sorry to hear that but re posting that over and over jus makes u look like u want some pitty points.
you really need to stop runing away from home it doesn't help i left home when i was 15 yrs old and i struggled for several years i'm just getting my life back now and i'm 20 yrs old if you need to do something go to your room listen to music, draw, write how you feel, runing away for me was one of the worse things i've ever done and i become metally un-stable for awhile trust me kids, stay in your room , do what she says then go back to your room, because you mum we figure out that she's being to harsh to you and there's no communication between you too she'll go easier on you. Shane
Originally posted by daizy1415: I hate my mom. She talks about my weight as though she is perfect. I joinded a weight loss program just so she would shut the f*** up!! I will be going to college in the fall and as far as I'm concerned, it would not have come soon enough. I never smoke or drink or party or date...ever. Its just never good enough for her. She dosn't like to listen to anyone else but damn herself.I don't even have a curfew. When I'm done with school or work I always come straight home. When I dissagree with her she calls me ungrateful. She is a bitch. She will always be a bitch. The funny thing about her is that I am the only family she has in the whole country and even though I'm going to college she still dosn't know how to be kind to the only person she has left. My mom is not just a bith but a very stupid one.
wow.. i dont know who u can deal..
i have a question for everyone..
im a responsible respectful 13 year old girl. i never get in trouble and i have very responsible friends...the thing is.. my parents will not allow me to go to the mall without parental supervision with friends to go shopping/see a movie/talk/ ect... i dont think this is fair..my older sister is 15 and isent allowed..even though her friends can drive..im homeschooled so i dont see my friends very often..and paying 7:50 every friday night to see my friends for two hours or so just isent cutting it..i mean..the mall is free... i was just wondering if i am being totally rediculous..or if 13 is really too young?
—I hate all moms. Like, one day I was like watching TV and my mom like, totally starting vaccuuming right when the commercials ended and I was all like, "na uh!" and she was just all, *VROOOOOOOOM VROOOOOOOOOM* And then Britney called and told me about the time her mom did THE SAME THING to her! And I was just all like, "psssht, moms suck lizards.". Like totally. Why is it so important for moms to vaccuum the living room while we're in there watching TV? Any mom's on YN wanna take a stab at that one? I'm all ears.
yeah its true, trust is love, but I have some of the problems that some of you are facing too. I hate my mom sometimes but I do love her, just because the fact that she's raised me for the past 17 years of my life. I simply hate her sometimes because she abuses me, not just physically but also verbally and it hurts because some of the things that I do to make her mad, I don't believe that I deserved it. For ex: I didn't clean up my room and she fuccin hits me for that reason. There was a time when I didn't wash the dishes and as I was washing them, my mom caught me saying the "F" word. She then hit me continuously with her sweater ( it didn't hurt physically but emotionally ) then she kept slapping my face. I felt like I wanted to rebel and hit her back, but that would just make matters worse and I wanted to sort things out with my mom. I felt like that day wasn't ever going to come because our relationship is broken, I feel like she doesn't love me anymore and theres nothing she can do to ever make me feel the same about her since I was a kid. I've gone through all those crazy things, I wanted to kill my mom before, starting at the 5th grade, the first time she ever laid her hands on me, and I've wanted to run awa, but how is that going to help me? I need my family yes but I also need to be free. I believe that teens can be held away from their freedom NO ONE should take it away because its so big to us. Its the time when we wanna explore, get outta the nest and actually do shit with our lives...anyhoo..i definitely need help with my relationship with my mom
Originally posted by girlfromxanga: As they say... life cycle. If you are a good daughter, most likely you will produce good offsprings who will obey you.
People change. How I am toward my mother is NOT in any way how I expect my daughter to be toward me.
You can't predict the future using genetics. I'm a different daughter than my mother was, and my sister is.
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Offering the use of contraceptives isn't safe even if it can be effective for a moment. It isn't 100% safe. Abstinence is.
Well, if everyone practiced abstinence, a lot of us wouldn't be here, huh? And if people didn't practice safe sex, there'd be a lot more of us.
Parent-enforced abstinence is fear. Fear is not as reliable as a contraceptive.
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So... you are just being lenient? That you just will accept it no matter what happens and not try your best that your kids will abstain?
It's called acceptance. If I tell my daughter I don't want her sexually active, and she does it anyway, I'll still love her. If she gets herself pregnant, I will support any decision she decides to take. Will I be disappointed? Of course. Broken trust is not easily repaired, but that doesn't mean I'll throw her out of the house. Everyone deserves a second chance.
No God, no religion, no text in the world could tell me to forsake my child's happiness.
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Chances are, they won't go to a doctor to get tested. Maybe for a married woman... but they are TEENS. Along with it comes embarrassment.
I believe Apology covered this pretty well.
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Who in their right mind won't learn anything even if there is discipline?
Discipline is not FEAR, jam. You expect your kids to learn from fear? Fear of God's wrath? Your wrath? You instill only enough fear in your children to get a bit of respect, and then you EARN the rest by being a good parent. A supportive parent. A non-judgemental parent.
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I have learned through discipline. Why can't your kids do?does it mean they will just listen to you with ears closed? Maybe you shouldn't waste your saliva anymore if that is the case.
You've learned through discipline, fine. Not everyone is like you. Not every child responds to discipline. As a kid, I much rather preferred something being explained to me, such as "What you did was wrong beacuse of this, this and this" rather than, "Do that again and see what happens."
You HAVE to learn the difference between discipline and fear. Discipline is getting kids to do the right thing merely because it's the right thing to do. Fear is getting them to do what you want in fear of the consequences. The latter is FAR less reliable than the former.
As they say... life cycle. If you are a good daughter, most likely you will produce good offsprings who will obey you.
Cool, then I have nothing to worry about, I'm pretty much a good daughter. "looks around". There is no way of telling how your daughter or son will turn out even if you were a bad or good child.
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Offering the use of contraceptives isn't safe even if it can be effective for a moment. It isn't 100% safe. Abstinence is.
I highly doubt all my children will actually listen to me and choose abstinence. I rather keep them safe however I can. If they listen then great. It's not like I am going to head them condoms for no reason at all, just because they are teenagers.
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So... you are just being lenient? That you just will accept it no matter what happens and not try your best that your kids will abstain?
I am going to try my best, but my best might not change their minds on having sex. If that is the case, I have to protect my child and keep them safe. That's what mothers are suppose to do, not nag their children to the point that they feel like they are the worse child in the world and mommy just donesn't like me.
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Chances are, they won't go to a doctor to get tested. Maybe for a married woman... but they are TEENS. Along with it comes embarrassment.
Oh please, I know a lot of teens who have sex and go to the doctor to get tested. The way I see it is teenagers have come a long way. Also, I know a lot of teens who are waiting. Teens aren't really like that anymore. However, I do agree some teens are like that but to me, they aren't mature enough to have sex then. They should stop worrying and just go because they are just hurting themselves. It's not like anyone knows.
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Your kids must be dumb then. Who in their right mind won't learn anything even if there is discipline? I have learned through discipline. Why can't your kids do?does it mean they will just listen to you with ears closed? Maybe you shouldn't waste your saliva anymore if that is the case.
I don't have kids. However, I do take care of lots of them. What I learned from them is that they don't always listen to me even when I know what's best for them and some do listen to me. I'm responsible for the safety of those kids and when they don't listen and get in a messy situation, I have to pull them out, make sure they are okay, tell them things are okay and punish them. Not in a hitting way, I'm not allowed but you know. I could only do some much, sometimes I do wish I can just tie them up because I know when they don't listen to me, they normally get hurt in a way. I don't want to see them hurt and crying. It's easy now because the mistakes that they do, I can fix but I can't fix when my daughter is pregnant, I can't fix when my son gets a girl pregnant. I could only help make things easier for them and punish them. I can't make choices for them. Taking care of someone else's kids is nothing compare to taking care of my own, so I can't say what I'm in store for.
Offering the use of contraceptives isn't safe even if it can be effective for a moment. It isn't 100% safe. Abstinence is.
From a parent's POV, having your kid on the pill is much safer than trusting that your parenting methods have scared them into/convinced them to stay abstinent. Like it or not, your control is being weighed with the demands of their partners and the demands of society, which, as your teen approaches adulthood, are ultimately going to win.
And yes, I do know many Christian girls who are having sex while their moms still think they are pure. Some of them are unprotected, risking pregnancy, because of their so-called "morals" and their parents strict upbringing.
Good then I won't have to buy them anything if they will just listen to me.
As they say... life cycle. If you are a good daughter, most likely you will produce good offsprings who will obey you.
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I just want them to be safe because they might not listen to me
Offering the use of contraceptives isn't safe even if it can be effective for a moment. It isn't 100% safe. Abstinence is.
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I'm going to talk to my kids about that. I will tell them how I feel that they should wait but even if I talk to them, that doesn't mind that they might not do it. At least I want them to know that they could come to me with anything and I am going to keep them safe.
So... you are just being lenient? That you just will accept it no matter what happens and not try your best that your kids will abstain?
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that's why they are going to the doctor and get tested every time they have sex.
Chances are, they won't go to a doctor to get tested. Maybe for a married woman... but they are TEENS. Along with it comes embarrassment.
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Oh, I will discipline them but that doesn't mean they will listen.
Your kids must be dumb then. Who in their right mind won't learn anything even if there is discipline? I have learned through discipline. Why can't your kids do?does it mean they will just listen to you with ears closed? Maybe you shouldn't waste your saliva anymore if that is the case.
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