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Originally posted by ineedhelp:
does anybody have any coping ideas?

it depends on what youre coping over...

does anybody have any coping ideas?

This is a typical guidance councler thing to say but have u evr talked to ur mom? when clothes shoppin for example say that u appreciate her opinion but u really like those pair of jeans over there etc. i dunno, doesnt hurt to try i guess

good luck

yeah, I sort of agree with blackeyed - just not to that extent.

rissa - youre 15! my mom would shoot me if she found my boyfriend in my bed. At least she cares enough, and loves you enough to be worried when she finds guys in your bed. "I cant be myself with my mom holding me down" - (again) youre 15!! You cant do anything at 15 anyways...I think you need to take a look at your life and see where youre going....

Maybe if you respected your mother for loving and caring about you, she wouldnt have to punish you all the time and she wouldnt be so "controlling".

Please can somebody help me. I love my mom so much but she is kind of- well, I really hate to say it but- stupid. My dad is an alcoholic. After thirteen years of anger and tensity from him, she told him to leave the house. She just couldn't let him go. It was, Poor Bill, Poor Bill, he just can't help himself...(note:my dad's name is NOT Bill, privacy, you understand...) And the papers for divorce have been signed (apparantly) but he's still over here. He's over at my house all the time- even though mom says there's a restraining order. He never answers my questions when I say things like, "Hey dad, what are you cooking?" he just looks at me and gives me that look- he tightens up his lip and stares at me, then shakes his head and starts slamming things around. Mom walks in and is like, "Hey, Bill! How are you?" and he looks at her, and then gives me a glance and she's like, (stupidly) "What? What was that look for, honey?" and he says, "Could you get Clara to go to her room so we can have a discussion?" and mom gives me a nodd and a wave of her hand. I'm really hurt by this. It's like dad's always going to be first. Then the other day when my sister tried to tell her...I'm sorry this is hard for me to write- she tried to tell her that she hated dad and that he was making the atmosphere so tense...and she did get loud, mind you...but then she called mom a b!tch. And then mom tried to choke her. My older sister (who was attacked) grabbed her keys, gave me a kiss, and left. I haven't heard from her since. Mom was just so pitiful and said she didn't mean to...I just felt so torn between my sister and my mom. And then I tried to tell her gently just tonight that dad needed to leave our house and never come back. I am just so upset when he's over here. She looked at me with that look like one when you've made a bad grade and said, "Honey, what's your daddy ever done to you? He's your only daddy, and he's trying to be better...he's cooking for us and everything, don't you care about that?" and I feel very upset with myself for saying this, but I say, "No." and I try to explain about this whole him being standoffish thing and she says that he just can't help himself he doesn't know what he's doing and he's very needy right now and his family needs to be there for him. I tried to tell her about the time my older sister and I found him on the couch in the living room and she screamed at him to get out and he said for us to get out or he'd call the cops, and my mom shook her head and said, "Honey, you're making me tired. I'm going to bed." and then I cried and said I was so upset and he'd done so much wrong to me and she called me a liar. I really lost it. I cried so hard I was about to throw up. Then she told me to stop it. "OH, stop it Clara. You're upset 24:7 and I'm TIRED of it!" and I told her dad was upset twenty four seven and she tightened her lip and stalked out of me room, slamming the door behind her. Oh, I don't know what to do...She's not listening and I really need help...I know this post took up a lot of room but I can't tell this to anyone in my small town...if mom knew that I told ANYONE...oh please just reply fast

****in cry about it!! jesus if u read my post my dad ****in LEFT the day b4 my birthday! quit ur *****in!! oh and just so u no most parents fight!! @ least u have both of urs and they actually give a rats *** what happens to u!! just shut up!! it sounds like a spoiled little brat pissed cuz she cant have her ****in way!!!
oh and u must have done something to deserve the grounding allright? peace

i'm not sure if i can really say i hate my father but i can say i dont respect him!!he moved out a couple weeks ago but he's still around!! he does his laundry here and whenever he comes over he hugs my mom and kisses her!! he was never really involved!! he told us he was leaving about a month b4 he did and he didn't even have the ****in balls 2 tell me himself!! and then he picked the day b4 my birthday 2 move!! and again he had someone else tell me!! he tries to still do some stuff but its just stupid!! we can both tell we only go because we feel bad!! he even told my mom he wasn't comin back and he told my brother he was just moving out temporarily!! i cant even go to his house!! it creeps me out!!
c ya

Hey, why is there so many people saying that rissa's mom loves her? How the hell would you know?

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Perhaps its because she cares about you. Maybe your mom holds you down beacuse she cares and doesn't want you in trouble or hurt. She cares for you, and loves you. I would feel happy that you have a mother at all, one that cares about you especially. Please, all grow up and realize that your Mothers love you, no matter what. Your mother loves you and it seems like she just wants the best for you.

I hatted my dad once. I also hate him. I occasionally fantasize about him dying, which I probably shouldn't tell people. But he's emotionally abusive, and used to be physically abusive. And he tells disgusting, racist "jokes". And he goes on forever about everything. And he's a conservative, which doesn't go well with the going-on-forever thing. WHY DON'T MY PARENTS GET DIVORCED, FOR GOD'S SAKE!?!?!
My mom just really bugs me by being immature and treating me like a little kid, but I know that I love her. But not my dad.

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Originally posted by jamaica17:
those who hate their moms have no respect at all for their elders.

You know, a person's mom isn't the only elder in existence. Some moms aren't worthy of respect, due to the fact that they don't give any back.
You guys do realize that 3 years is 1,095 days?
At least I don't have my grandma as my mom. She talked my mom out of applying for HARVARD. My grandma is evil. I can see why my grandparents took a break for a year. What I can't see is why they got back together.

Prove to her that she can trust you.

my mom is so mean *she wont trust me i dont hate her but i wish she would trust me cuz ive done nothing wrong she wont let me see my b/f and i am so mad

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Originally posted by ampmaster:
damn you guys both (rissa/ozzyrox) need to get your family in to some serious conuseling sessions and I mean serious holy cow your moms creep me out

Their MOMS creep you out?!?! Heck, THEY'RE the ones who creep me out!!! Do you really think that they're moms are as bad as they make them sound?

Trust me, my mom can be SUPER annoying and sometimes I feel like I hate her, but I don't let those moments control me. They're your PARENTS for pete's sake, they're supposed to give you guidelines and rules and such.

This thread is so depressing and yet kind of morbidly funny.....it's sad.

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i hat my mom

I made my mom a hat once....so I guess I'm like QOH, I "hat" my mom as well. (sorry, couldn't resist)

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Also, I've said this so many times, but I told my Mum I hated her and she DIED. You NEVER know when the last time you'll be able to say 'I love you' to them.

So sorry, sunshine. Hope you've realised that, however your Mum died, it wasn't your fault. No way, no how.

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Originally posted by Jenos:

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i hat my mom

Does that have something to do with throwing a large sombrero at her and trying to land it on her head?

Wait...its when you give your mom a hat...i think..hmm...i was always confused on hat mom day..

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they wont let me dress how i wanna dress (and its not ****ty its like band t-shirts of acdc, led zeppelin, and just jeans.) they want me to dress in pink and blue. and i do, just not preppy

Boo hoo! I can't dress how I want. Oh well! When you get out of the damn house, dress the way you would like too.

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i hate how they choose my friends, boyfriends, and clothes. its MY body

They don't pick **** for you. It's not like they hang up posters on poles saying 'Will you be friends with my ignorant daughter?' Or ask boys to go out with you.

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and then they say im not acting grown up or 15 because i say i hate you and $$$$.

That just makes me laugh. YOU ARENT ACTING GROWN UP. You're a KID. And they're your PARENTS. They're just looking out for you.

Also, I've said this so many times, but I told my Mum I hated her and she DIED. You NEVER know when the last time you'll be able to say 'I love you' to them.

Grow up.
-Sunset

ooooo. You're grounded on your birthday! Soo sad.

Awwwwww, you poor little *****.

Just be grateful you have a Mum who cares about you, gf.

damn you guys both (rissa/ozzyrox) need to get your family in to some serious conuseling sessions and I mean serious holy cow your moms creep me out

[URL=i hate my parents]it's the night before my birthday[/URL]

hi. mi names stephanie. if yall think u hate your mom wait till u hear my stories. tommorows my birthdayy and im grounded. my cousin kelsey is running away from arkansas to come and see my best friend (her new boyfriend) and me for my birthday. she lives w/ my grandma. and now im getting blamed for her running away to mississippi. and after getting yelled @ for that mi parents started going on about my friends. how they are bad people and $$$$. BOGUS!!!! they wont let me dress how i wanna dress (and its not ****ty its like band t-shirts of acdc, led zeppelin, and just jeans.) they want me to dress in pink and blue. and i do, just not preppy. i hate how they choose my friends, boyfriends, and clothes. its MY body.this is rediculus. and then they say im not acting grown up or 15 because i say i hate you and $$$$. whenever thay are 35 and yell and cuss and say i hate u to eachother constantly. if anytrhing their not acting grown up. y should they pick mi frineds. mi friends arent bad people. some of them may smoke or something but they never try and talk me into it. i say no and its end of discussion. i wish they would trust me. i acn only imagine how they r when im in college in 3 years.

This post still makes me laugh.
-Sunset

Well, there's no crying face. Waa. Who ****ing cares? Rissa is still stupid.