HI My name Is Jake and I am 14 and almost 15, now i know people will probably say your just 14 but, I am Verbally And Physically Abused, I desperately want the emancipation Law and cannot wait until im 16, my Dad just passed away and even when he was alive my Mom still does, but she calls me whore, cock sucker, bitch, bitch from hell, fucker, and she wants me to die, and so on, and she also hits and throws things at me for no reason i cannot stay the night at a friends or have them come here, i cannot talk on my phone unless im sneaking it, I sometimes think about how most 15 year olds can just smoke and drink and have a perfect life, im a good kid i also watch my baby sister who is 7 months old and have started that since she was not even a month old, I cannot take it anymore I am homeschooled and want to go to school but i cannot and i have to stay home and watch my sisters monday, tuesday, wednesday, and sometime friday, i ask for just one day off and if i ask that my grandpa yells and says i have to go get a new family then, i do not want to leave because i am afraid and i do not want to leave, I am just one bg mess, I have thought about suicide and have tried it many times but i just want to live but hate my life, please help me I am in search of advice Please help I need help.
Thank you,
Jake

I fought with my parents all the way until i got moved out. My dad kicked me out of the house because i dropped a corrispondance course, my mom stopped talking to me for 3 days because i got a B in french ect. When i moved out, my mom told me that my graduation was going to be like a funural, except that it would have been better if someone had died. we fought all the time, my dad actually seriously threatend to kick me out forever when i was 15, because i sighed, when he asked me to make coffee. i use to just sit in my room all day and not go anywhere. but i didn't have a lock, so my mom would come in and yell at me there too.

it sucks being young. my suggestion is find someone you can talk to. and if you can, move out, because being verbally abused is not right, at all. and once you move out, don't carry what your parents said with you what they say is intirely untrue. and if they say you're going to be unsuccessful. the best thing to do is to prove them wrong. nobody has the right to tear you down.

your not the only one..ive been verbally abused by my father since i was a little girl. he tells me im useless, a mistake, a bitch, and pretty much anything else. and anything he does. i.e punch holes in walls, drink, pain killers...he tells me he does because of me. i cry all the time. ill lock my self in my room and just cry for hours and hours. my mom helps me though. she believes me. we try to send him to a mental hospital..or jail. but he always finds a way back. so no your not the only one.

I feel so horrible inside my mother is either calling me an idiot, retard, little bitch, and telling me to shut up, sometimes I just feel like gong into my room hiding into a corner and just cry....

Fidn someone to talk to. you could also try talking to your dad about why he's treating you like that but it depends on if he's a rational person. maybe your mom could help be a buffer? Just try not to let that bad cycle continue.

hey i'm andrew and heres my story, ok i'm juss sitting there in my room doin my h/w and my friends ask if i wanna go play some football i said sure and went to ask my dad, so i ask him kindly and he goes " fine do wat u want i dont care if u get hurt" so i say tht i wasnt gonna play tackle and were gonna play tag football then he goes off on me how he doesnt care and tht i shud never come bak home if i go out and i shud bring some clothes and i was like i didnt do ne thing wrong today and he juss keeps doin i juss started to tear up b/c he started yelling at me idk wut to do

The best and easyest way I figured out was make a horrible fight, real emotional then you can sugjest (sp) that you move, or they will.

You stay mostly out of court and everyones semi-happy.

Atleast thats how it happened to me.

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You could always consider emancipation.

Massachusetts refuses emancipation. The best you can do is go for a transfer of gaurdianship. The whole system is a big pain in the ass, however. DSS is basically useless unless it's physical abuse and you have scars to prove it and a lawyer is basically a neccessity or you won't be taken seriously. The only reason I finally got my transfer of gaurdianship is because my lawyer has a good reputation and pulled strings inside juvenielle court to get a judge who had heard of him. Basically, getting free from your parents legally is a pain in the ass.

In New York state there is no such thing as emancipation... and in many other states there isn't either.

geminiangel has a point...

You could always consider emancipation.

yup same here. i started feelin deppressed n when my mom noticed she stopped a bit. i dont think parents really realize how bad their child can feel. i think u should try 2 talk 2 her. if that doesnt work then scream back the same things she says 2 u cuz SHE's the failure.

I don't get verbal abuse from my Parents, but from my grandparents. They can be the most hurtful people in the world. Every time I See them I always get the "Should have never been homeschooled, your not goon be normal" and how Im a outcast.

My grandparents can take the one thing you fell bad about *body,social,etc* and make feel so much worst about it..

Wow. You almost made me cry. Your story and mine are the same. I have tears in my eyes right now.

It's amazing what we, the children of verbal abuse will do. We just want to be loved and treated right by our parents.

Believe me. The world is a better place then you know. I got out of that situation by standing up to my mother and moving in with my dad. I don't know if you have devorced parents or not.

Because of my mother's abuse I have alot of problems in my every day life. Alot of problems with relationships and also emotional ones too.

I hope that you can come from the experience as a better person then I did.

If you ever need a friend, I'm here for you.

Yeah my dad has done the same kinda thing to me for as long as I can remember scrath the glass and knife part. If your feel like your becomming like her GET THEREAPIE serisly help it before it gets to far!

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Originally posted by meiko:
i've been verbally abused by my mom all my life. i try and disregard all the things she calls me. from constantly calling me stupid, telling me im a failure, im not going to college, and all those good stuff... shes told me to go kill myself. she's threw glass cup at my face, and ran after me with a knife. yeah.. i dont know what to do. i dont know what to say to her that'll make her understand what shes doing to me. im turning into her, and i dont want to.

am i the only one with a verbally abusive parent?

ditto about everything you said, only its my dad

Heh, unmoral.

maybe you should call a family member or a hotline or something...what if your mom went too far? I know you probably won't want to do either of those things, i wouldn't either. no one can make you feel worthless without your consent. maybe going to college could prove her wrong. heres a hotline if you decide you need it.don't just brush it off next time it happens, this is serious.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE

I am new to this site. I felt this was a good opportunity to vent my feelings.

My mom tells me I'm stupid, she even made me tell myself that I was stupid. She even called me a b**** when I talked back. Sometimes it just slips and I have to say something cuz I can't take it anymore. But then she just comes back harder. It seems like when she's having a bad day she takes it out on me. I'm too scared to go to my school councilor or to an adult cuz I'm afraid they'll tell my mom about it and she WILL go off on me again. I'm not a bad person I promise! But sometimes I don't want to go home after school cuz I kno she'll yell at me for something.

First thing you should do is get a job if you don't have one already. Second, you should save at least half your check every time you get one. If your old enough to be in college, your old enough to move out. Ok, so go stay with a friend or other relative. Third, tell your mother what she's doing to you. Don't feel bad about it just come out right and tell her. See what happens. Maybe she was verbally abused as a child, you said yourself you feel like your turning into her. Good luck.