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You could always consider emancipation.

Massachusetts refuses emancipation. The best you can do is go for a transfer of gaurdianship. The whole system is a big pain in the ass, however. DSS is basically useless unless it's physical abuse and you have scars to prove it and a lawyer is basically a neccessity or you won't be taken seriously. The only reason I finally got my transfer of gaurdianship is because my lawyer has a good reputation and pulled strings inside juvenielle court to get a judge who had heard of him. Basically, getting free from your parents legally is a pain in the ass.

In New York state there is no such thing as emancipation... and in many other states there isn't either.

geminiangel has a point...

You could always consider emancipation.

yup same here. i started feelin deppressed n when my mom noticed she stopped a bit. i dont think parents really realize how bad their child can feel. i think u should try 2 talk 2 her. if that doesnt work then scream back the same things she says 2 u cuz SHE's the failure.

I don't get verbal abuse from my Parents, but from my grandparents. They can be the most hurtful people in the world. Every time I See them I always get the "Should have never been homeschooled, your not goon be normal" and how Im a outcast.

My grandparents can take the one thing you fell bad about *body,social,etc* and make feel so much worst about it..

Wow. You almost made me cry. Your story and mine are the same. I have tears in my eyes right now.

It's amazing what we, the children of verbal abuse will do. We just want to be loved and treated right by our parents.

Believe me. The world is a better place then you know. I got out of that situation by standing up to my mother and moving in with my dad. I don't know if you have devorced parents or not.

Because of my mother's abuse I have alot of problems in my every day life. Alot of problems with relationships and also emotional ones too.

I hope that you can come from the experience as a better person then I did.

If you ever need a friend, I'm here for you.

Yeah my dad has done the same kinda thing to me for as long as I can remember scrath the glass and knife part. If your feel like your becomming like her GET THEREAPIE serisly help it before it gets to far!

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Originally posted by meiko:
i've been verbally abused by my mom all my life. i try and disregard all the things she calls me. from constantly calling me stupid, telling me im a failure, im not going to college, and all those good stuff... shes told me to go kill myself. she's threw glass cup at my face, and ran after me with a knife. yeah.. i dont know what to do. i dont know what to say to her that'll make her understand what shes doing to me. im turning into her, and i dont want to.

am i the only one with a verbally abusive parent?

ditto about everything you said, only its my dad

Heh, unmoral.

maybe you should call a family member or a hotline or something...what if your mom went too far? I know you probably won't want to do either of those things, i wouldn't either. no one can make you feel worthless without your consent. maybe going to college could prove her wrong. heres a hotline if you decide you need it.don't just brush it off next time it happens, this is serious.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE

I am new to this site. I felt this was a good opportunity to vent my feelings.

My mom tells me I'm stupid, she even made me tell myself that I was stupid. She even called me a b**** when I talked back. Sometimes it just slips and I have to say something cuz I can't take it anymore. But then she just comes back harder. It seems like when she's having a bad day she takes it out on me. I'm too scared to go to my school councilor or to an adult cuz I'm afraid they'll tell my mom about it and she WILL go off on me again. I'm not a bad person I promise! But sometimes I don't want to go home after school cuz I kno she'll yell at me for something.

First thing you should do is get a job if you don't have one already. Second, you should save at least half your check every time you get one. If your old enough to be in college, your old enough to move out. Ok, so go stay with a friend or other relative. Third, tell your mother what she's doing to you. Don't feel bad about it just come out right and tell her. See what happens. Maybe she was verbally abused as a child, you said yourself you feel like your turning into her. Good luck.

parents should ntot be puttin their own kids threw that its just not right! its unmoral!

you are not the only one who has faced verbal abuse from your parents. don't ever feel that way. what helps me is writing. I write poetry about the experiences that happen to me. You never know it could help

Oh wow. The verbal abuse I get from my dad. I haven’t seen him in four years but when he calls I still hear the same things. I've learned to block it all out But your mom chasing you with a knife? And throwing stuff at you? Perhaps you could go live with a relative, or get emancipated.

hey its not right! you deserve to have better! i know that people are scared to tell other people, but its not like the olden days. YOU WILL GET HELP!!! trust me, i know. verbal abuse can lower your self-esteem, drag you down into depression, etc. if you keep going on like this, chances are (and i'm not trying to repeat what your mom said) that you won't even try to go to college, because all your life you've been told your worthless, and stupid, etc. YOUR NOT!! i believe everyone's good at heart its just some people have been ruined by society. there are exceptions, that i won't name because it might offend people!! your good and deserve to be treated better. and her running after you with a knife? and telling you to go kill yourself? advice: don't take it. run away to a friends that she doesn't know about. it won't be kidnapping i think if you voluntarily run away. i know that this would be a big step for you but you can do it! i know you can! write me if you want:fantastico1990@hotmail.com love tina

yea i misbehave sometimes but that;s ormal for a 14 year old right come on well my parents like expect me t be perfect and i mean it's a nightmare so if i give my mom a like nasty look she like lectures me on debasing my self for like no stupid reason and i mean come on she tells me to go to hell and calls me a jackass and a ***** and if you knew my mom she only ever swares when she's like really mad and this probably sound really stupid but it's not because i dont wanna sound to mean but i'm like sorta wealthy and like i'm SUPPOSED to be perfect and if i even mess up one i get abused and that' terrifing to me ao wut can i do i still have four yeasr with my parents because i'm only a freshman?

To sum it up, you have about three choices

Deal with it (you don't have to live with her forever but if you feel your endanger then do the next choice)
Get Help (there is people, you just need to look for them)
Leave (But don't like live on the streets or get into dirty business because you will put yourself in another hole.