What ^ pple? Yeah Im new and all but I am very.. open. I have this issue with my parents. They say I cant; have a bf and I say i should be able to have one! They keep sayin

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We don't trust the boys

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How when you don't even know or try to know them. I know how to handle myself and I respect myself enough not to make a silly mistake like have sex. It's not like I don't know better I just want the companionship of some one from the opposite sex who happens to like me as much as I like him. My mom knows im gonna date NE-wyas so why try to stop me? What do u think?

Wow, you can't exactly start blaming the boys because you don't trust them. Most of my best friends are boys and I asked them about the whole dating thing. They said that more than half of the time, the girls are the ones that push the whole sex thing onto them. Exact words "Especially the ones with the crazy, controlling parents. They do anything for attention."

due, you guys, please don't start insulting eachother about what countries you're from... thats totally off the subject, not to mention stereotypical and overly judgemental. besides, it doent matter whether or not the philippines are allieds with the u.s., the the governmentsdecision and not the peoples, so it doesn't change their minds about anything. celticnewager, just cause you saw filippino people burning a flag, doesnt mean that jamaica17 was one of them. and also, jamaica, please dont judge people with drug addictions so harshly. true, they have obviously made some bad decisions, but that doesn't mean that they are automatically going to go go crazy and start killing peopel or something. they wouldnt do that unless there was already something inside of them that the changed mental status just brought to the top.

Thats all,
peace.

Talk about jumping to conclusions.

Very good, Celtic.

Why dont you just come out and say it Jamaica... your a lesbian... it's ok, honest.

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Well, to me druggists the first one to become killers. When they take drugs, their mental condition is not stable and so they may kill someone. Maybe to you, in your neighborhood, nice people (like a mailman ae the killers and druggists in your town are the ones with a very warm friendly smile)

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Sorry, I forgot killers are obvious there because they just carry bombs. And boom.

Do you want pics of my neighborhood? I mean, you'd shut up about the druggies, but I'm sure as hell you'll call me a rich brat, since you can never seem to have enough self esteem to shut up or enough time to move on.

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so what? that was a long time ago.. besides, now, my country is one of the allies of the US.

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Hah. Are your troops in Iraq? Have they been in any war with the US? It's just out of dependence for the US.

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really... if that is so, i would have been dead now if there were bombs here everywhere

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Well, there has never been a terrorist attack in PR. Haha. And no, please don't make me too happy at the idea.... not here, though.

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this is because most of the guys now cannot be trusted.

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You've never had a BF. Have some life expirience before you make claims.

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You really have to know some guy completely for about a year or maybe more in order for you and your mom not to freak out that this certain guy is some kind of rapist, killer or some weird spy.

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Use common sense. A rapist won't try to get to know the vicitim well, unless he plans on killing you or using a mask as he rapes you. A killer (unless it's an impulse killer or an anger fit killer) always shows signs and it's your problem if you don't see them. A spy? Are we still on the Cold War?

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I mentioned serial killers because I find it amusing at how people think the killer is the druggie next door when it can actually be that nice mailman you talk to every day.

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Well, to me druggists the first one to become killers. When they take drugs, their mental condition is not stable and so they may kill someone. Maybe to you, in your neighborhood, nice people (like a mailman ae the killers and druggists in your town are the ones with a very warm friendly smile)

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You judged mine first. You insulted a tradition. I've never heard anything good from your country, in fact, my oldest memory from it was seeing a bunch of you (as in Filipinos) burn an American flag.

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so what? that was a long time ago.. besides, now, my country is one of the allies of the US.

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My country may be 50% and 50% Christian santero, but at least I can go out without fearing something exploding next to me.

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really... if that is so, i would have been dead now if there were bombs here everywhere.

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Going behind parents backs=bad decision.

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i agree with Ikki... the parents are always included in any decision you make.

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If it's any consolation, my mom freaks out if i mention dating, gets worried if i hang out with a guy, and has told me that i should hold off on sex till i'm thirty. Unless your mom is worse of course.

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this is because most of the guys now cannot be trusted. You really have to know some guy completely for about a year or maybe more in order for you and your mom not to freak out that this certain guy is some kind of rapist, killer or some weird spy.

If it's any consolation, my mom freaks out if i mention dating, gets worried if i hang out with a guy, and has told me that i should hold off on sex till i'm thirty. Unless your mom is worse of course.

Note: Just don't turn to celibacy

This has probably already been mentioned, but I don't care.

If you meet a guy/gal that you really want to go out with, talk to your parents openly about it, each saying why you should/should not be allowed to date. Also, try to make a compromise such as going on a group date or hanging out with the person with a group of friends. They probably already trust you, but even so, you should prove to them just how trustworthy you are.

Going behind parents backs=bad decision.

dont let them find out.
that the best advice i have for ya.

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Originally posted by cinderella120:

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
Please, doing what cinderella recommends is suicide. Forget dating after that. I wonder if she's tried it.

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OK what do you mean "I wonder if you've tried it?" I am not trying to make anyone commit suicide i am just giving my opinion on this matter. and on the sneaking out part, i was joking, do go on my case about that, did you notice my age?

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Ok the real problem is that bellerella here is too young to understand hyperboly.

and even though sneaking out was a joke... the rest of your opinion was uninformed apparently... unless your parents worship you of course, and I'm sure thats the case.

Cinderella, I didn't go into your profile to look at your age, and you shouldn't be using that as an excuse.

Hey, what happened to all thses posts, that were here not 10 min ago... I'm trying to educate these girls.

I'd like to see an e-mail from an administrator after you get done pruning

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
Please, doing what cinderella recommends is suicide. Forget dating after that. I wonder if she's tried it.

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OK what do you mean "I wonder if you've tried it?" I am not trying to make anyone commit suicide i am just giving my opinion on this matter. and on the sneaking out part, i was joking, do go on my case about that, did you notice my age?

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Originally posted by Hydrok:

HAH She still doesn't trust me, I just did a ton of work for her. So she tolerates me being around all the time because I'm handy. Sometimes I feel so used.

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I know, but hey....what can you do? You can't force trust upon another person.
Specially my mom.

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HAHA... Tell me about it... I would have had my head chopped off.

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Well, I did that once, next thing I knew I got a call to the cell of my BF, my mom saying my grandfather had gotten in his car at 1 am and was looking for us. I ran back home.

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Originally posted by CelticNewAger:
Please, doing what cinderella recommends is suicide. Forget dating after that. I wonder if she's tried it.

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HAHA... Tell me about it... I would have had my head chopped off.

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Originally posted by Karategirl28:
Don't be in a such a hurry, you have your whole life in head of you. I didn't start dting till i was 15.
Your Parents have a right not to trust the guys you want to date. My mom didn't trust my boyfriend till we had been dating for 2-3 months. Parents sometimes need a slower transition so they can trust the boys you date.

Just don't be in such a rush to go out with a guy, your mom wants to stop you, becuase she doesn't want you growing up to fast. You shouldn't directly go against your parents word openly....that could be dangerous. I still say you should wait...i mean if your like 16 and aren't allowed to have a bf i would understand the complaining, youre only 14 though so enjoy life as it is now.

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HAH She still doesn't trust me, I just did a ton of work for her. So she tolerates me being around all the time because I'm handy. Sometimes I feel so used.

Please, doing what cinderella recommends is suicide. Forget dating after that. I wonder if she's tried it.