Read "The Lovely Bones."

And sneaking out is only going to cause more trouble. Be careful and wise, but also not too paranoid.

I would not recommend taking cinderellas advice of sneaking out. It couldn't help the situation,m and would make them veiw you as less mature/more troublesome and probably would continue prohibiting you to date.

It is not really their choice what you do. Just tell them to bad, you are going to anyway. And if they ground you, to bad for them just sneak out at night or find some other way to see him.

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Celtic only thinks about serial killers.... thats why she ant really give a very good advice. and who is talking about a serial killer anyway??? all she was saying was about boys and a guy she wants to date or somethin.

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I give good advice because I have lived, in fact I think I've been through more than maybe someone in their mid 40s could have.

I mentioned serial killers because I find it amusing at how people think the killer is the druggie next door when it can actually be that nice mailman you talk to every day.

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oh yes we do have doors celtic and we have a gate and we have locks.. so, what if my country isnt very safe???? can you guarantee all the other countries in the world are 100% safe??? how about your country?? maybe it is full of pagans and witches or whatever... and dont ever deny you didnt judge my country because you judged mine first. What you read in the papers only portray the dark side of everything... most newspapers only get those stories with killing, violence and suicide or whatever evil is out there... if you want to know more about how beautiful my country is, go and find some travel brochure... mostly, in newspapers you cant find anything good about any country... so i suggest you head to a bookstore and find a brochure on travelling in the Philippines.

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You judged mine first. You insulted a tradition. I've never heard anything good from your country, in fact, my oldest memory from it was seeing a bunch of you (as in Filipinos) burn an American flag.

My country may be 50% and 50% Christian santero, but at least I can go out without fearing something exploding next to me.

No country is 100% safe. I believe the safest countries are the less populated ones that don't have much toursim, but that's just me.

sometimes mothers can be really 100% right... i dated this guy once and i did asked permission from my dad and he said know and then my mom said i shouldnt go to the movies with this guy unless he really is an OK guy... well, guess what??? i never had a date before but yes, i have lots of guy friends in school but im just really shy when it comes to dating so then, i disobeyed but not because i would like to hurt my parents but because i only wanted to prove that the guy was not my bf, only a date... and then... i went with that guy but then i found out he was such a jerk and i really felt ashamed that i went to the movies with him. and now, i have learned my lesson but to me, its ok if i dont go to dates all the time as long as i am happy with myself, get good grades, and hang out with friends... guys should be the ones who will chase a girl they like, not a girl chasing the guy....because a guy who will really go for the girl he likes is really sweet... i still believe in tradition and old fashioned ways.

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You know, serial killers are usually polite.

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Celtic only thinks about serial killers.... thats why she ant really give a very good advice. and who is talking about a serial killer anyway??? all she was saying was about boys and a guy she wants to date or somethin.

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Oh my god... no wonder.... Aren't there locks and fences in your house? All you have to do is lock the doors, close the window, and don't open doors to strangers. Then again, I don't think that country is very safe as far as what I have read, maybe it's different there.

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oh yes we do have doors celtic and we have a gate and we have locks.. so, what if my country isnt very safe???? can you guarantee all the other countries in the world are 100% safe??? how about your country?? maybe it is full of pagans and witches or whatever... and dont ever deny you didnt judge my country because you judged mine first. What you read in the papers only portray the dark side of everything... most newspapers only get those stories with killing, violence and suicide or whatever evil is out there... if you want to know more about how beautiful my country is, go and find some travel brochure... mostly, in newspapers you cant find anything good about any country... so i suggest you head to a bookstore and find a brochure on travelling in the Philippines.

Yeah you did scare me a little but i get what you're sayin now. Thanks for the info!

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How would you know unless u were one or know one?

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Read on serial killers. That's how I know. I didin't mean to scare you, I just wanted to say that.

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i shouldnt be alone in case there would be instances of robbery, rape or some killing or whatever.

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Oh my god... no wonder.... Aren't there locks and fences in your house? All you have to do is lock the doors, close the window, and don't open doors to strangers. Then again, I don't think that country is very safe as far as what I have read, maybe it's different there.

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you're a 20 year old nursing student and you're not allowed home alone?

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I've been left alonein the house since I was 11. No fires, no robberies, no rapists, nothing. In fact, my parents are out now and my sister is with my grandmother.

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First off, you are only 14 years old. Don't be all in a hurry to date someone just because you want companionship.

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I wasn't trying to tell you when and when not to date. All I was trying to say is that dating isn't all that and a bag a chips.

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Um I don't mean to sound rude but what position are u in to tell me if I am old enough to date or not? You are not my mom and I don't know you that well.

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Like I said I wasn't trying to tell you when and when not to date. All I was trying to say is that dating isn't all that and a bag a chips. Why would I want to be your mom? No offense, but thank someone that I am not your mother,

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How would you know unless u were one or know one?

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Read on serial killers. That's how I know. I didin't mean to scare you, I just wanted to say that.

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i shouldnt be alone in case there would be instances of robbery, rape or some killing or whatever.

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Oh my god... no wonder.... Aren't there locks and fences in your house? All you have to do is lock the doors, close the window, and don't open doors to strangers. Then again, I don't think that country is very safe as far as what I have read, maybe it's different there.

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you're a 20 year old nursing student and you're not allowed home alone?

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I've been left alonein the house since I was 11. No fires, no robberies, no rapists, nothing. In fact, my parents are out now and my sister is with my grandmother.

Don't be in a such a hurry, you have your whole life in head of you. I didn't start dting till i was 15.
Your Parents have a right not to trust the guys you want to date. My mom didn't trust my boyfriend till we had been dating for 2-3 months. Parents sometimes need a slower transition so they can trust the boys you date.

Just don't be in such a rush to go out with a guy, your mom wants to stop you, becuase she doesn't want you growing up to fast. You shouldn't directly go against your parents word openly....that could be dangerous. I still say you should wait...i mean if your like 16 and aren't allowed to have a bf i would understand the complaining, youre only 14 though so enjoy life as it is now.

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Um I don't mean to sound rude but what position are u in to tell me if I am old enough to date or not?

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You posted a thread about it, therefore granting everyone the right to tell you what they thought.

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How would you know unless u were one or know one?

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You've never read anything or seen documents about serial killers?

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i have the same problem although my parents have warmed up already as long as i have to let them know where i am going, who i am going here and be back on curfew time....

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Aren't you like 20?

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i shouldnt be alone in case there would be instances of robbery, rape or some killing or whatever.

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you're a 20 year old nursing student and you're not allowed home alone?

Um I don't mean to sound rude but what position are u in to tell me if I am old enough to date or not? You are not my mom and I don't know you that well. Look I ynderstand the fact that boys are all somewhat evil but I know enough not to let them control me. I am very mature for my age and I don't like all boys because they are cute or jocks, or whatever. I look @ a person's heart because that's what matters most!

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First off, you are only 14 years old. Don't be all in a hurry to date someone just because you want companionship.

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We don't trust the boys

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Your parents have a point when they say this. It's not that they don't trust you because they probably trust you more than you give them credit. They just don't trust the boys you pick because they didn't raise the boys themselves so they don't how they are going to treat you.

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How would you know unless u were one or know one? And still, what doess that have to do with me? People don't have to be serial killers to be polite!They can just be good people!

You know, serial killers are usually polite.

hmmmm.... i have the same problem although my parents have warmed up already as long as i have to let them know where i am going, who i am going here and be back on curfew time.... well, sometimes my parents wont say what time i will be back but they just say make sure when i come home late, i shouldnt be alone in case there would be instances of robbery, rape or some killing or whatever. My parents also said the same thing that they dont trust the boys and in fact, 50% of myself says that i agree with them because at this time and age, its rare to find a guy who is such a gentleman and that he will still open car doors for you, or waits for the right time instead of pressuring you to have sex.... I still think that being a gentleman is sweet.... and another 50% of me says that they dont know what they are saying since they are not the ones spending some time with that guy.... but even though i know i would date, i still wont erase my parents' advices to be careful always.

I think maybe around 14 is good, at least. But what I worry more about is the person's maturity level. If they're 14 year-old boneheads, then maybe not. Maturity matters more to me than age, but of course at a reasonable age (not 5th grade, like Yogore said).

And of course your parents don't trust boys, because boys are all at least a little evil, quite honestly. I personally never fully trust anyone anyway, and I'm not exactly allowed to date until I'm 16 which is in May. There have been times where I feel that I want to date someone, but later realize that I'm not ready and don't want to. I'm still not sure when I should let myself date even when my age-limit is off.

I base a lot of decisions of freedom on maturity. So don't worry too much about it, there's a whole life ahead of you anyway. I never thought I'd be able to wait until I was 16 to be able to date, but here it comes and I don't even want to date yet!

Whatever you choose to do: have fun, be smart, and peace.

Eh. I think daitng at 13 and 14 is fine. You just have to realize you will not be with this person forever, it is not love, you don't need to depend on them, etc.

It's just practice for when you seriously date.

I hate it when 5th graders are saying they are dating though. I really think 13 year olds get thrown down into thinking they have the same veiws on dating as their younger peers. Although many people need to realize what dating is. It is not saying "we're going out" and never talking to the other person. So many immature people give early teenage dating a bad name.

I started dating when I was 12 (culture). But, I think I should have waited till I was at least 14. In the US you're still to young, so what I'm saying is wait till you're 15-16 to start dating. For then, have guy friends and just friends and have fun with them, but don't ruin it by dating them.

First off, you are only 14 years old. Don't be all in a hurry to date someone just because you want companionship.

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Your parents have a point when they say this. It's not that they don't trust you because they probably trust you more than you give them credit. They just don't trust the boys you pick because they didn't raise the boys themselves so they don't how they are going to treat you.