Question:
Do you agree with corporal punishment(spanking) by the parents in the discplining of children?

I do, as long as it is done in the home and it does harm the child's body. This is the only way most children will learn to behave.

Also, were do you or have you ever received corporal punishment? I have.

Choices:
yes, when a child repeatedly disobeys
no, never
in extremely rare cases
that is like a crime

 

I have experienced being beaten when I was a kid because I throw tantrums a lot and also when I do stupid things. When I recall all those painful punishments, I don't have bad feelings towards those who hurt me. I turned out to be not much of a bad person after all...

Well, I'm Chinese.. and my parents are pretty conservative. I'm not sure about other Asian parents, but beatings are pretty common, from what I grew up with. My friends, and such... who are mostly Chinese, went through more or less the same thing as I did, with a few exceptions here and there. Disrepect and rude behavior is totally unacceptable much of the time. I have to say, I agree with teaching kids manners and respect for the older generation (the elderly don't get much respect nowadays). I dunno... I didn't realize until recently that hitting children was uncommon... -_-
I wonder how other parents teach their children without spoiling them? You know, that old saying? "Spare the rod and spoil the child".. I think. I don't like the idea of being beaten, but it's not like my parents didn't love me. They always told me it was for my own good.. gee... x_X

the eternal enemy of dubbed/cut anime,
Lydia

Hey don't worry, I'm into debating and all too, but only on a well-rounded factual basis. I've got no problem with debating about it, but...you know, here's an example of how it can get annoying to others:

Mary: Whats your opinion on spanking?
John: I think is wrong because blah, blah...
Mary: You're wrong, blah, ect...
John: No...you're wrong...
Mary: Shutup! I'm right!
John: ...Uhhh...(I thought you were asking for my opinion...I simply stated it, so get off my back already...)
Mary: SEE?? I told you I was the one right!

Annoying huh? I hope you see my point. I'm done here.

I assume you're talking about me and iluvjp arguing, but we're probably going to be arguing about things until this site is shut down, so it would be best to get used to it. Or ignore us. Either way's fine, but currently we're debating on three noiseboards, so I don't think we're going to stop anytime soon.

okay

The whole point of setting a poll is to get everybody's opinions... So if people state them, its not like you can force them to change their minds. I just came here to let my voice be heard once and thats it. I'm not trying to shove my opinion in someone's face like it's a well-known fact, so let it be.

No, the parent is showing the child respect by teaching them to behave properly.

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That's showing disrepsect to your parents who are just trying to correct you and show you that disobedience comes with a price.

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It's showing disrespect to your child by hitting them, and if the parent wants respect from the child, then they must show the child respect. The child looks up to the parent, not the other way around, therefore, if the child is hit by the parent, then the child will think it's okay to hit people.

If I spanked my child and she/he hit me back, I would take all privileges away and give him/her a few more pops on the butt. That's showing disrepsect to your parents who are just trying to correct you and show you that disobedience comes with a price. I don't think spanking is necessary for everything. As you get older, sometimes taking away the phone, computer, tv, car, etc. does more to punish you than a spanking does (at least it does to me anyway). Anyways, I was spanked as a child and I turned out perfectly fine.

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think about training a dog, for example. one of the most important rules is never to hit the dog or to act violently towards her.

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Okay, well, um, with training my dog, we hit her when she did something bad. Does that make me a bad dog mother?

And although I don't plan on having kids, I assume I could have one. I mean, God impregnated Mary without her knowledge or consent, right, so why not impregnate me? But anyway, say I have a child, even if I lost my temper with him/her, I can't see myself hitting her. I mean, if my mom hit me, my first instinct would be to hit her back, so that's what I would expect my child to do, if I hit her. It only seems fair that if I hit my child than s/he gets to hit me back, right?

Whatever, you can have spoiled little brats for kids if you want. I don't plan to abuse my children, but if they disobey me, I will give them a pop on the butt as soon as we get home.

Yeah I was spanked as a child all the time, but I never became a violent person. I refused to allow myself to resort to violence to solve a situation because I knew what it was like to be the victim.

I was spanked once by my mom for lying to her in fourth grade. She used my dads belt. OUCH!!!

Other then that my parents never hit me. I think that all kids make mistakes tho, and that they should be yelled at our maybe grounded from something, but not hit.

I was spanked as a child, and I'm not a violent person. I know plenty of people that were spanked and they turned out well, better than the brats that weren't.

VoiceInACrowd: Were you spanked as child???

To me spanking is a mild form of child abuse. All it does is teach your children to react violently in the future. Parents should find more productive ways to discipline their children. That way, instead of just leaving in anger and a throbbing red butt, the child will leave the scene with something to think about. There are causes and effects, but no matter the cause, we should not react in violence. Just think about it. A parent of a 7-year old decides that his method of discipline should be the old-fashioned spanking. Years later when the child has grown to become a teenager, he seems to get into fights repeditively at school. Of course the parent will be angry. But if you think about it, it was the parent's fault in the first place. By being angry, the parent is being hypocritical. He was the one that taught his child to punish physically...did he not? Now don't tell me that this is far-fetched.

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think about training a dog, for example. one of the most important rules is never to hit the dog or to act violently towards her.

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until it is running through the backyard with your arm.

Spanking is different from beatings.. but I don't agree with either.

no, never.

in my opinion, a child should never be hit or spanked. it is nothing but violence. and besides, think about training a dog, for example. one of the most important rules is never to hit the dog or to act violently towards her. it simply frightens her and gets in the way of her learning. it is a thousand times better to train with patience, kindness, and gentle love.

same goes for a child. a child will learn his lesson much better if he is told what he should do rather than what he shouldn't. it puts the emphasis on the positive.

spanking is nothing more than violence against those weaker and more vulnerable. even if it is just "a little smack," it still hurts, and it still teaches the child that it is okay for bigger and stronger people to hit smaller and weaker people, whatever the lesson is.

my parents have never hit me, and i shall never hit a child.

~silver spirit

it took me about an hour to finish. when i get into books like that i can't stop, i am obivious to everything and everyone. i love that book, but in a different way than how you would love your cat.