I read that book when I was about 12 or 13 years old. It was so sad. I couldn't put it down. I read the whole thing like in 5 hours. I needed to take breaks during the 5 hours so it was less then that I think.

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everyone that has replied to this poll, regardless what your reply was, should read the book, A boy called "it". That book has changed my opinion on how to disapline children. read it. then reply once more, see if it doesn't make you cry or at least change your opinion on the matter.

nah it's not that exaggerated,i didnt mean that either.and no,kids that never get spanked aint's spoilt.they were taught in some other way.
but i mean,when there's a better way,why do you have to pick this way?
in some situation a parent can't come up with anything to handle his kid,but there are some other parents who can always do that.believe it or not,my niece has never been spanked,even if her parents hit her a bit,she could hit them back in their hands or arses in return.teh heh.the worst moments of her 6 years' life are when her parents stop talking to her,silence means warning.she usually soon behaves.she's a smart and great child.she knows both what she shoudlnt do and why she shouldnt do.

the idea of discipline is to say you cant do that again or you'll get this again,i dont like you when you are doing this.if you kid gets "good" in this way it's not because they know it's wrong,it's because they dont like spanking.
PS.it's not new that telling kids to do A instead of telling them not-to-do-B is more effective

corporal punishment...hehe fancy word for spanking isn't it...I never got spanked, i was always good but my brothers did...they turned out okay....I don't think a little smack on the tush is gonna ruin a kids life.
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As for everyone who says that an occasional smack on the butt affects a child for the rest of his life, I was spanked as a child and it kept me from wanting to do things like disobeying my parents. I think I have turned out better for it. I know plenty of teenagers and kids that need a spanking every once in a while, but their parents refuse to spank them; these are the kinds of kids who are spoiled brats.

I coughed all over my computer screen because I didn't know I was going to cough so I didn't cover my mouth.


Yup, goes to show you all stuipd I really am.

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I mostly only work with the nun chunks.

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I like doing Martial Arts

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that is very cool, it is good discipline and teaches self defence as opposed to beating people up. Keeps you healthy too!!

I think a little about fighting. I don't think about beating up people, I just think about fighting period.

I like doing Martial Arts.

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It really bites knowing that if something really bad happens to a child, it may affect that child for their rest of their whole life.

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It's weird, I keep going back and forth.

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not really, I think everyone questions what they become. I sure did, I was weak plenty of times, just not infront of anyone. I think it is what keeps you sane. I think having the side of me that questioned what I became is what helped me become what I am. I don't fight or have an urge. The only way I would really fight is to defend myself or someone I care about. Otherwise I really have no reason anymore....

Getting hit with the belt or any other things made me very weak and very strong.

I'm very fightable..............if I want to be.

Or

I'm very weak.............if I want to be.

Either way I'm messed up both ways.

BUT I WILL NEVER HIT A CHILD..............

and NOW I'm mostly WEAK my fighting days were when I was in my preteen years. However, when I was little, I was as weak as I am now. It's weird, I keep going back and forth.

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Being whipped with a belt in the bathtub is much too harsh and extreme.

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It happens alot and it has to do with how our own parents were brought up. I remember my father telling me about one of his punishments, by todays standards his father would have gone to jail for a good period of time. The future parents of the world(us) need to break the cycle.

I have been hit with a belt among other things. Being a boy and fairly strong willed this led to more problems as I got older. I became much like my parents must have become with their cruel and unusal torture. I became a fighter, not just at school or with friends, at home as well. Thus turning everything very ugly. I'm not saying turn into a viscious dog on your parents. Remember these things and how they made you feel...I never want my children to feel about me, the way I did tword my own parents.

I don't even remember what I did. I think it was because I didn't want to take a bath so I was being very stubborn.

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Being whipped with a belt in the bathtub is much too harsh and extreme.

um that was my form of punishment and I was scared to death.

I was a bad girl though so I deserved it.

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Has anyone ever got hit with the belt in the bathtub?

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that is not a proper form of punishment, there is no reason to scare kids to death.

Has anyone ever got hit with the belt in the bathtub?

Now that is punishment, you would scare the kid to death, surely someone would be scare and it hurts bad. It hurt more because you were wet.

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also the idea of punishing children is: parents are right.i cant agree with that.

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I understand about your Dad, I'm sure it is like that for many moms and dads, it is hard to make money and feed a family.

As for punishing children, think about this. Your child keeps sticking their fingers in electric sockets. You put covers over them, but your child just pulls them off. You have yelled, you have taken your child away from the danger. But it does not stop them, do you think a swift spank is worth posibly saving your child? I do, and that is what I mean more then spanking your child because it made you angry or spilled some milk. A spank used in the right way I feel is good. In the USA there are so many laws to protect children that all someone has to say is they saw you hit your kid. I think reporting something like a woman hitting her kid in the face at a store over and over is the right thing, but not for a spank.

yeah he acts quite flinty
i cant blame him really.i guess he might not mean to yell at me,but
his factory keeps making noise everyday,he has to walk down the workshop and shout to the workers,that makes him think people can't understand him if he doesnt yell.he wont change.
if i were him i really would be cranky as well.
but,understanding cant change my feeling.it's like,"please yell at someone else why is it always me?now you are yelling at me does it mean you are complaining again?"
corporal punishments on a child can affect his attitude towards his parents,maybe when he grows up he thinks he minds it no more,he knows his parents were all for him,but he still has the impression that his parents are strict or not nice or they can get so angry that they have to kick his azz~~

also the idea of punishing children is: parents are right.i cant agree with that.

but anyway if a parent really does that it's not that serious,it's just because he cant find any other way...