Question:
Have you ever been raped or sexually molested?
1 out of every 6 American women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. A total of 17.7 million women have been victims of these crimes. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by age 18. 7 in 10 rape and sexual assault victims know their attacker prior to the assault.

Choices:
Yes- but it's a big secret
Yes- but I've reported it
I'm not sure- I guess that depends on how you define "rape"
No- Thank goodness that's never happened to me!

 

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There's nothing wrong with having hope

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I know, I never said it was wrong. But, for some reason, hope always gets trampled by something or another.

Just thought I would say, the ******* that abused me is going to die... finally. It'll all be gone. *does happy dance*
-Sunset

There's nothing wrong with having hope you know. And you don't have to be Christian to believe in the power of prayer. I pray and I am far from being Christian. And I don't know whether this means anything to you or not but- I don't reject or hate you. E-mail me if you ever need a shoulder to lean on. It wouldn't be a sign of weakness. I know it sounds a bit cheesy but friendship doesn't cost anything and I want to be your friend and help support you- no strings attached.

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If someone says they will pray for you that doesn't mean they pity you.

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ah, i know. i hate them both, though. my mum wanted to "pray" for me the other day for some stupid reason (i didn't even bother asking why) and when i told her not to it was "against her religon." bah. stupid b*tch.

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If a person says they will pray for you it just means they are worried about you

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they shouldnt be worried about me, though. i'm not going to jump off the bringe over our canal *whistles* and i'm not going to get myself hurt *looks at ceiling* so what is there to be worried about?

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but I feel you are wrong about bottling this up

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it's worked thus far, why shouldn't it work for the rest of this one's life?

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Why would you want to carry such a dark heavy secret with you for the rest of your life?

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because its you. it's your private life. its what you feel deep down inside. its what you cry to the wind when there is none to hear your sobs. knowing someone, truly knowing them, takes courage on both parts, but it is harder for the giving end. you take the chance that the person listening will reject you once they know the truth, that they will hate you because of what's been done to you, what you've done or how you feel. keeping it inside is safe. keeping it inside prevents pain from the outside world.

sun

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No, we said don't pray for us (depressedwavemaster and I) because we don't believe in God.

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no, i'd have to agree. the christian mythology is not one that i particularly agree with. christians' views and my views of praying are totally different, though we pray to the same One. i dont like the fact that they do it. like they're better than you because they have "hope."

Oh no, I'm not telling a school counselor, no way. That women knows why to much about me already, well, the whole school does. I told one of my 'friends' last year some stuff, which who blabbed it to my history teacher, which than blabbed it to the whole class, which eventually told everyone else.

This on kid said in my science class "Oh! There is that girl who's mother died... ect. " and pointed at me. Still, all of that after a year. I'm not going through that again. No one needs to know anything besides myself. And I would like to keep it that way. I deserved all of it. Believe me.

No, we said don't pray for us (depressedwavemaster and I) because we don't believe in God. And it makes me angry that some people think that all of the people around them believe in God.
-Sunset

If someone says they will pray for you that doesn't mean they pity you. I hate pity- it's insulting. If a person says they will pray for you it just means they are worried about you. Just because we're strangers doesn't mean we don't care. Remember, I've been there too. Not everyone will understand. Some people may be angry or think it's your fault (Sunset it was NOT your fault and you are NOT a horrible person. I have no doubt that you are a special, sensitive, and talented person!) but I feel you are wrong about bottling this up. I'm afraid it will eat you up inside. Please tell someone! I don't say these things to force you to relive these horrible memories. You need to heal yourself because you obviously still have issues about it. Who wouldn't? It isn't right. Why would you want to carry such a dark heavy secret with you for the rest of your life? Talking to a counselor lightens your load, it really does. I want you to think about it, for me.

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doesnt it annoy you when stupid people (like ELMO17) say they'll pray for you? i just want to scream "DAMN YOU!" into their faces.

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Oh hell yes. When I saw that I was like "****er..." I had to control myself. (no offense Elmo17) I hate it, I mean hate it when people say they'll pray for you... it drives me nuts.
-Sunset

ah, that's what i thought when i read your post, that someone finally saw my point of view.

doesnt it annoy you when stupid people (like ELMO17) say they'll pray for you? i just want to scream "DAMN YOU!" into their faces.

i stand my ground, and i'll get yelled at this (not by you), i'm sure, but dont tell anyone about what happened. it won't get you anywhere, if it would, it would be backwards, further into the pit of despair (gotta love that imagery).

Americus14-

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...what will happen if some other guy tries it? How will you react then?

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The same way; I will feel like a **** and cry. And never tell anyone. It's happened all through my life and I've reacted the same way.
(I'm sorry, I never saw this earlier)

Elmo17-

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Please tell someone!

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How about a no.

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You didn't deserve that!

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Actually, I did. I'm a horrible **** and I deserve everything that has happened to me.

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I'm praying for you!

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Please, don't. Don't waste your time. I'm sorry if I sound rude, I'm not trying to be.

Joskinz-

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Why do people rape in the first place?

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Becasue they're sick *******s that don't have a life.

depressedwavemaster-

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...you shouldnt tell ANYONE.

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people suck and they never understand.

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keep it with you till the day you die.

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Finally, someone sees it my way.
-Sunset

dont tell anyone. i know how you feel, and you shouldnt tell ANYONE. people suck and they never understand. dont take the chance. keep it with you till the day you die.

Why do people rape in the first place? It's just so irritating that most girls get raped and the rapist gets away with it. it's unfair. We're humans. We have rights! How come they do this to us? Don't they know that rape is down right wrong?

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FantasyNightmare - what happened to you that you're scared to let other people talk about the subject?

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I am not scared of others talking about the subject. It's a free country, you can talk about whatever you want but think of others, not everyone is as open as others are. They rather not share what happened. They rather keep it to themselves. I, for one will keep it to myself. Also, I am not going to tell you what happened. It's a long pathetic story and you rather not hear about it, believe me. I rather not hear about it and when thread after thread is created about the same darn thing, it gets very hard for some people.

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It's obviously a sore subject for you, and I'm sorry for that, but people don't just stumble on websites like this and threads like this. So if they're here, it means that they want to be.

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I beg to differ. They are other places where you talk about RAPE RAPE and oh yea some more RAPE. Some girls talk about rape as a joke. Screaming rape me to a guy you like, just playing around isn't funny. Or the other jokes. Some girls over the net and in person, lie about getting raped

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You're here, so you probably want to be here, so you probably have something to say: It might be easier to just say it.

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Nope, I am pretty content with keeping my motuh shut. My days of opening up are over, very over.

StormFaerie is right. Please tell someone! You didn't deserve that! I'm praying for you!
Elmo17

FantasyNightmare - what happened to you that you're scared to let other people talk about the subject? It's obviously a sore subject for you, and I'm sorry for that, but people don't just stumble on websites like this and threads like this. So if they're here, it means that they want to be.

You're here, so you probably want to be here, so you probably have something to say: It might be easier to just say it.

I don't mean to sound rude but maybe it's better not to write so many threads about rape and sexual abuse. People try to foget that and when they see the word raped everywhere even on the Internet, it's hard to forget. Some things are better unsaid. I know that talking doesn't help. It gets you in trouble and I know because when I opened my big mouth, I only caused trouble and no good came out of it. I guess, it helps sometimes to talk but my best advice is, DON'T OPEN YOUR MOUTH, DON'T TAKE THE RISK.

I encourage all who have suffered in this way to speak to a counselor so you may move on. It's unhealthy to bury a secret like this. I know, I did for 10 years. A person that takes advantage of another person is obviously sick. And it is not ok. And if no one listens then you are talking to the wrong people. It's embaressing and painful to admit, but you should not feel ashamed about yourself. I know I am repeating myself but some of you need to hear me say this over and over. You are not alone. Too many women (and men) have been sexually abused. Don't let that criminal get away anything, even if he is a relative. You deserve better.

First of all, I'd like to say this: IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! And you must tell someone. It will be hard but if no one reports the souless loser then he can just keep on doing it. Not everyone will understand but there are some people that will. Ah, I got to go to class but I will come back to finish my speech.

I have been sexually molested life can get better or get worse im 13 and im still goin threw alot of ruff things. My brother was the one that molested now im supposed to have unsopperviesed visits but i still have to do it but im to scared to say n e th9ing about how I feel.

Yeah, so you tell someone. It doesn't mean that the nightmares or the pain is going to go away. People can back stab you with stuff like that, which makes matters worse.

You know, I've read your reply about guys that have been raped. Wrong. It's just as bad for guys. My brother was raped by a teacher. It was very painful for him, so painful, that he killed himself. So don't go and tell me that it isn't so bad for guys. Either A) They don't talk about it or B) People have that steroetype and don't talk about it. And make guys seem like the bad guy.
-Sunset

It's not a good thing to keep quiet about sunset...I know things may seem like they have gone away NOW...but what will happen if some other guy tries it? How will you react then? Also it might come back to haunt you...Just because you didn't tell someone...get it off your chest...or the fact that you let him get away with whatever he did. I've never been in the sitiution but i have been on the sidelines...my friend was raped when she was 10 by an uncle...and now she's 17 and she's having nightmares about it...She hates the fact she let him get away with him...You just might want to think again...but if you feel this is your only choice...it's understandable...but LEAST talk to someone about it. It might make yo feel bettter.

P.s Caspian...Yes a guy can get raped...but it's not as bad for them...unless it's from ...ummm sorry but BEHIND. then it hurts pretty bad i bet.
-Katrina