i was a victim of sexual abuse as a toddler by my step brother who was about 7
then again by him when i was 10 and he was 15...it never went as far as sex but it is still scary and haunts me to this day.

everyone is so set on keeping their children away from strangers and all to often the sexual preditor is right in the family....or at least in the close circle of friends.

Yes and no...is it abuse if you don't feel abused? I did all kinds of things before I was legal age, some before I was even in my teens, but they aren't horrible memories or anything. I'm gay now, I suppose some religion-crazies would call that "damage", but aside from that I'm not really any different than anyone else.

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Originally posted by Trisscar:
I know dealing with what I went through was really hard. I was abused by a guy only three years older than me from the ages 8-12. He never raped me, but the stuff he did do - i can't even talk about without throwing up.

I surpressed all of it until i met my Boyfriend, and then having somebody in my life - I fell apart and all the memories came back.

I ended up telling my parents when I was 16. My mom told me that I was lying and that I was just saying it for attention and that it never happened. The kid who did it was the kid she helped as a TA, and it made me feel like she cared more about him then me.

Now she lets my brother hang out with him, even though he's 8 years older than my brother.

The whole situation makes me sick

sounds like she didn't listen to you when you told her. Unfortunately, these things happen
I wish I could do something about it more than jsut talk about how my goal is to get rid of stuff liek this.

I know dealing with what I went through was really hard. I was abused by a guy only three years older than me from the ages 8-12. He never raped me, but the stuff he did do - i can't even talk about without throwing up.

I surpressed all of it until i met my Boyfriend, and then having somebody in my life - I fell apart and all the memories came back.

I ended up telling my parents when I was 16. My mom told me that I was lying and that I was just saying it for attention and that it never happened. The kid who did it was the kid she helped as a TA, and it made me feel like she cared more about him then me.

Now she lets my brother hang out with him, even though he's 8 years older than my brother.

The whole situation makes me sick

I was. When I was 2 my real father molested me, and that went on till I was almost 4. Then a few months later, a boy at church took me in the boys room and exposed himself to me. I dont remember anything with my father, but I do remember the yellow walls in the boys' room. Then about a month ago my exboyfriend (I have no clue what I saw in this kid) deserrved to be casrated coz he fudged up my emotions enough to where i let him convince me to put um.. something in me muth bc he said (and I quote) I GUARANTEE it will keep me.
it's a long story...

I count it as abuse bc I'm still a minor (arg a week left) and while he's younger than me, let's jsut say he was 10 at his first. I spose it counts..

so ya there's your answer. I'm good.

;D peace!

Well...If you ever wanna talk about it you should e-mail me. Moo_gurl08@hotmail.com

softball

thanks a lot, i guess it was a family member, but not all that close related like a 2nd cousin or something, and yeah he was around my age, but still, and while i was there i was exposed to porn, and that kinda thing stays with you. now i've got some issues in my life, and had some, because of all that happened in less than three days.

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Originally posted by DayDreamerForFreedom:
well as most of u know from my previous post is that I was sexually abused by someone in my family, but since then we've made amends are very close now as friends ( i know it's sounds weird but in way I've forgiven them and all I want to do now is put it in the past where it belongs)

I am sorry to what happend to all of you but when i was between the ages of 7-12 my step father was rapeing me if u want 2 know more feel free to email me at reneemookie@yahoo

Thats one of the first steps headpowerbbb. Tell your stories. I dont think I've ever told my stories on here, I might've. But for me, I dont think its important for me to tell mine, unless I think it might help others. So, if your sexual abuse had to do with a family member, someone around your age, and someone you trusted, then I suppose I can tell my story =)
Luck to you all!

hey guys, i'm kinda just jumping into the conversation, that is if you don't mind. i've been sexualed abused before, on five ocasions, which i know isn't a lot, but that's not the point. once when i was 9 and in middle school. i'm only 14, but i will admit that i was very scared, and i didn't know what to do. i took a trip to maryland with a family member along with my two sisters, and this boy that was at the house we stayed in, liked me, i guess and i guess i thought he was kinda cute, but anyway the first day we were there, we were all upstairs before dinner playing around and he unplugged the lamp, naturally since i was crawling around near a bunk bed, i wanted to be able to see, so i made my way to where i was trying to get. he grabbed me around my waste, from behind, we were on our knees, and he began to, (hump) me from behind, and i pushed him off, but anyway i could tell about the other four times, but i'm not, because this is going to become one heck of a paragraph, but thanks for listening, that does count, doesn't it?

thanks softball_chica---those do sound very helpful!

Hello fellow victems. So, for x-mas i got a giftcard to Barnes and Nobles (bookstore) and I got this workbook thingy, for sexual abuse. I dont know if it'll help any..but all I know is that i think about it more and more now. Hopefully it'll help in the long run...heres the title...The Courage to Heal workbook: for woman and men survivors of child sexual abuse.
Also, I bought this other book that is about an 11 year old girl that was sexually abused by her cousin...similar to my story...heres that title. Stolen Innocence: triumphing over a childhood broken by abuse: a memoir

So there are some reads!

CL- i think that i am similarly affected. I think when i was younger i thought it was acceptable to be sexually active. I didnt' really care if we were dating or not. i think i sort of craved the attention. And when i did find love, i was uncomfortable and rejected it. I think i might need some help, just to sort some stuff out. i think i was afraid to admit that. that he had affected me. so thanks for sort of helping me get it

gibbonsgirl---it has affected me, when i was 15 i started having sex, and had many partners by the time i was 16. I met my (now) husband when i was 16 so i settled down and now i am 20 and we have been together for 4 years, i find myself less intrested in sex, as a teen it was like i was looking for something through sex and i just couldnt find it, i now know it was love i was seeking.

I have so many regrets, and now my past is something i have to live with, but i am just glad i figured it out before something bad happened to me....i now consider myself to be very lucky to be blessed with a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful children.

there is light on the other end, believe me i have found it.

wow. i knew people were sexually abused by memebers of the family but your story is so similar to mine. My 9 year old cousin rapped me when i was 7. And my entire life until that point was constant sexual abuse. I never really knew if i should consider it rape because he was only 9. I guess since it had been happening for as long as i could remember I didn't know what to think about it. But I knew it was wrong and all.

Has this sort of thing effected the way you are sexually? Like I mean are you afraid or drawn more to sex? Because you were so young and he was so young and it happened repeatedly? I was just wondering. I'm still trying to figure out how it effected me. Because pretty much I've been relatively normal...I think.

Wow, i never realized that so many people had been sexually abused. I guess its just one of those things thats horrible and happens to almost anyone...I wish everyone luck in there story, and hope everything goes okay for everyone...

Autumnromance-No matter how mild it was wrong and it is important.

LaShae--I am sorry that it has happened to you too, and such a severe case. I know it seems hard, but you can not let this hinder your life now.

DayDreamer--- I am glad you have moved on, it is important that we all do eventually.....

TO EVERYONE:
WE HAVE TO MOVE ON AND PAST THE PAIN. DONT GIVE THEM THE SATSFACTION OF TEARING OUR LIFE APART NOW.

THEY HELD YOU DOWN BEFORE, DONT LET THEM ALL YOUR LIFE.

BE BRAVE.HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE IN SPITE OF THEIR IGNORANCE.

well as most of u know from my previous post is that I was sexually abused by someone in my family, but since then we've made amends are very close now as friends ( i know it's sounds weird but in way I've forgiven them and all I want to do now is put it in the past where it belongs)

I heard that it is usually a friend or a relative that is the predator. Imagine that!

When I was a young girl I was sexually abused by a man who is now dead. The abuse I went through was only a mild case, compared to what others have been through - my case may not be important, I know it is not as difficult to deal with as others, but I know what it is like, how it feels to go through something like that. I know what it is like to be the only one (out of two people, one who is know dead) who knows what really went on when my parents weren't home.

It's all about getting through it though. Just recently, a close friend of mine finally told a conselor that she had been sexually abused by her father continually. It sickens me - repulses me that the man had a wife, and he decided to take his sick fantasies out on his daughter.

I'll always feel repulsed in the presence of men.

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Originally posted by Saturnmoth007:
I just feel very strongly against anyone who does that to any person of any age. They are sick and twisted vermin who should be punished.

Quite so.