I was as a toddler as well; my abuser is two years older than I. It really only happened once, but at that age your memory is still developing. I still wonder if it really happened at all; am I just born some kind of pervert, able to think of these things on my own? That's what makes me think it really happened. I don't believe children younger than (as a general line) ten, understand or would even think of anything in a sexual way if it weren't for some outside force (say, finding a "dirty magazine" or something). I have never confronted the abuser, and I don't plan on it. I am sorry for whomever else this has happened to. I know that my life would be very different had this not happened to me, especially when I was so young.

I did.

Denial. Denial. And denial.

Then apologies.

Then more denials. Then again, I contacted him in person.

He can't have matured; a sadist will always be a sadist, sad but true.

Celtic, i am sorry to hear that....if i may, what did you do afterwards....did you confront the person? i only ask cause i would like to know what to expect if i decide to go through with this....

if i ever do contact him i want it to be in email, i couldnt handle anything else, and the only reason i want to is because (i think) he has contact with my step dads new step daughter(hope that makes sence) she is only 8 , it isnt constant contact, but i do think they visit....

and as someone else said maybe he has matured now....but i am afraid to take the chance he hasnt.....

this is a heartbreaking situation...i dont want to tear his life apart, he already did that to me, i just dont want it to happen to someone else.

childs play? thats crazy and your step dad probably knows it. you just have to confront your step brother about this... and talk to a counselor or a close friend who you can trust... this will nvr end for you if you dont end it now.

I was.

you confront him. it's good that you want to, because it means you're probably ready to make him face the results. you might not necessarily want to punish him anymore, but he should know. Especially as a husband and father, you should do it to help look out for his own children. who knows? by 25, maybe he's matured.

no, he was never punished, i told my mom who told my step-dad, who said it was "childs play" (this was when he was 15 and i was 10)

i find myself thinking about it more now that i am older than i did when it happened, i just want to confront him, i want him to know how much he affected my life......at this point i know that holding on to the anger will not get me anywhere, but i feel like talking to him would help me let some of it go.....i havent talked to him, really, since i was about 10-12 years old....i am now 20.....i have not seen him in about 8 yrs....somedays i would like to choke the life out of him, otherdays i think i can forgive him.....

i just want to get his take on the situation...i want him to acknowledge that he did something terrible.....and then i am terrifyed for his children, if and when he has any....he just married and part of me thinks he may hurt his own children (when he has them)....but what do you do?

i cant believe a 7 year old sexually abused you.
that is so wrong under soo many levels.

i feel so bad for u, i hope your stepbrother was punished for what he did, and that you are in counseling or something
my thoughts and prayers are with you

I've never been abused but can really relate to the terror and agony that one goes through if one has been through this. I'm sorry for what happened to you. A great resource I've found is Sexual Abuse. You may find it helpful.