Here I am on X-Mas writing about this but oh well, I have been wanting to answer this board for a while but I haven't...I don't know...but, I know that 7 years after what happened, happened....It is still haunting me, and even on Christmas for some reason, and no, not just cuz I read this board, but becuase it was already on my mind....----->I just got this crazy idea....lets start a new board----> [have you ever been sexually abused?] we will take our results of real accounts from real teenagers and send it to EVERY government crap that we can think of to show them that this is real people who's lives are effected and real people who are forever robbed of something and that these few poeople who are charged with sexual abuse should REALLY be punished. I don't know....I am not even making senses.....I'm just sick of all the crap, NO ONE should ever have to go through this crap, and NO ONE should ever go un punished for these HORRIBLE crimes! But in all reality, it is harder to prove molest...ecspecilly [spelling] if you wait 5 years to tell like I did. I'm going to stop rambling now, but if anybody seriously wants to help with that board, let me know...

xoxoxMOCHA

Hey everyone. It is horrible what happens to children these days. It seems sometimes like we can't do anything to stop it, but there's a will, so there msut be a way, right? My goal in life, apart from the DXR movement, <http://death-expectant-radicals.blogspot.com> is to end child abuse in the USA and hopefully the world. It's annoying how common it seems, but when you really look at it, it's not that common. Yeah, one in three girls will be raped or molested, and I was a victim, myself, but that's two out of three that won't be. There are some scary numbers out there, but it's hard to get people to change their ways unless there are serious numbers involved.

One person can't change the world. But we can make a difference in our own lives.
Trisscar, never lose hope. Raise awareness. Do some research, get some numbers, and spread the word. It's the only way anything gets started.

And, a small correction to the actual ratio:
1/4 Girls will be affected by child abuse, be it self, sibling, or friend.
1/5 Boys will.
10% of the documented cases (I fully agree with 1/3) of both of these stats was sexual.
in 2003, in the USA, 1500 children died from child abuse.
In 2004, 111 died jsut in Florida (my current state) from child abuse. more than half was from neglect, but 46 out of the 108 that didn't need followup were from teh other kinds of abuse, including sexual.

But those stats are of a different nature. Rape and molestation of a female of any age is, as we have agreed, wrong. Yes, I read the entire topic before posting so I don't make a fool of myself. If we are all so shocked by it, then why aren't we telling people? Part of the reason it is so accepted into society is that people don't know the facts. They don't know that their best friend could very well be a victim. They don't know, so they blow it off until they find out, at which point they freak out and - oddly enough - want to do something about it.

And you can do something about it: Tell people what you know in casual ("random fact: 1 in 4...") conversation, and when they flip out, tell them to spread the news, too.

OK, I'm done with my inspirational bit. Teh fact is, this world sux and until we make some noise (yes i'm new here so its punny to me), it's going to suck, so grab the stats and shock your friends. Or, you can always write your rep in the government :P

;D peace

I wish I could help stop this type of abuse. But its impossible. How can you stop something like this? You really can't, the people who do this kind of stuff are often the ones you least expect...

What gets me is that there is no real movement to try to stop the fact that 1 in every 3 girls are somehow sexually abused. The fact that it has become so common in today's day and ageis outrageous. I've seen the effects that rape has on a person and there is no punishment too cruel for this crime...and because there is so much fear involved, girls are too scared to speak up, and these criminals, who deserve the worst, get away. It's a sad thing. I am so sorry for any girl who has ever been hurt in such an unspeakable manner.

I agree, it is way too common. My friend's mom was raped by her uncle when she was 8, and it the whole idea makes me sick. The idea that anyone would do that to another human being, let alone a child, is just horrible.

every man loves to be enticed.. and women love being attractive.. it goes along..
and children being the innocent are victims of such circumstances..
Children are such fragile beings.. yet are even exploited by their parents who are greedy for money.. they make money out of their own children.. Yuck!!!
Men who are sexually starved and who have brain washed by pornography have turned to children for pleasure.. YUCK!!!

Thanks for your comments guys. And I agree with Ilamalover, think about it as kid or a young teen, and the problems involved with sharing what has happened to you. What does it mean for you? will you have to testify? And a lot of times the person who does stuff to you threatens you or the people you care about. There is so much fear involved, so many unknowns. I've been personally told that because I didn't report what happened to me, that guy could be out there doing what he did to me to other girls. It was a disgusting thought, but I'm not strong enough to tell, the fear is still there, even though I know now that I'm older that there is no reason to fear.

And by the way, people go to jail longer and get fined more for killing an Eagle in Canada than for raping a girl. Its disgusting.

And I know this thread has probably done over and over again, but it doesn't change the fact that people have to deal with it sorry about that guys.

i think the reason grils dont admit it caues they dont konw what well happend after they tell someone. they just want to forget about and move on with there life. i my self was molested as a kid. and didnt want anyone to know about it .its still some times hard to talk about it or even being tough i feel uncomfortable and i know dont know what to do or say.

I think most of the time rape is something very hard to pin down on someone. Yes, you've got DNA evidence, but if the rapist doesn't have a criminal record, it's almost impossible to find them. Not only that, but DNA evidence is not always trustworthy, and the kind of evidence you'd get from a rape is even less so.

It's unfortunate to be sure, but there simply isn't enough manpower or solid evidence to find and catch every rapist.

I agree Triss, and I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through. Isn't it a shame, daemonophobia, to think that an event that haunts a girl for the rest of her life is taken so lightly? It says in the law that it will only be considered a felony if it causes mental harm, but doesn't it always cause mental harm?

Thanks for your replies guys.

After posting this a while back i did a little more researching and found out about how the rapist hardly ever gets sentanced. I just makes me so sick.

And what makes me even MORE sick is to imply it is a womans fault because of what she is wearing. It's just...wrong.

Triss, it's horrible to hear yourself has gone through it.
I thank you SO much for your replies and i hope this board keeps on going, i want as many opinons as possible.

I totally beleive that 1 in 3 girls have been sexually abused/ molested/ raped in fact, i know for a fact that thats the sad disgusting truth.
Lots of girls will never say anything either, its amazing how much shame girls carry for what is not at all their fault.
It is a painful thing to live through and deal with, living through it myself, I know there is a lot of pain and its a huge injustice and its not fair. Even though it happens so often, doesn't make it less hard for girls (and guys) that have to live with it. But you do figure out ways to cope, and you manage but sometimes its hard. Expecially since, even though its so common, its a huge taboo subject in our society, i mean nobody wants to hear about an 8 year old being felt up or 16 year old girl being raped, so girls stay quiet and its hard enough to talk about as is so it makes it even harder.

I have to agree with daemonophobie. Its becoming almost accepted. While, of course people acknowledge its a horrible thing its become one of those 'Hey, it happens' kind of deals, like shoplifting. 1 in 3 girls are raped (no, I didn't pull that out of nowhere, my mom is a sexual abuse counselor), so it is very common. Those charged with rape are hardly ever prosecuted due to the fact that there is almost no way to prove rape occured instead of consensual sex because girls are not likely to reveal they've been raped within enough time for any evidence to still exist, therefore its really a he-said-she-said case, even though its been proven that girls hardly ever cry rape (though most people don't know that because they only ever hear the cases where they do, like supposedly that basketball player).

I'm afraid that the LifeTime picture of the man getting prosecuted to 10 years for rape almost never happens, in fact even if a rapist is convicted they may get as little as probation. Victim blaming is another thing that is holding back solution to a lower rate in rape. You'd be suprised how many women, even now in the 21st century, are still routinely asked by police "Well what were you wearing?"

is it becoming more common? i thought it'd gone down since the early 90s?
anyway i don't think all teenage girls are abused, that's just ridiculous.
i do have a couple of friends that were raped though. my best friend was gang raped before she reached her teenage years actually. we never talk about.. she likes it that way. some people get over quickly, while others can never seem to let go. my friend still has a lot of problems even now; 6 years after it happened. i’d rather not go in to detail.

Rape and sexual abuse are in no way 'normal.' Yes, they are becoming more common, but never will either of them become 'normal.'

We live in a society where we see sex everywhere we look. So natrually there's going to be more people influenced to have sex and, yes, maybe even force it upon someone. It is in no way right, and that is why rape is a crime.

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Originally posted by daemonophobia:
Why is it that Rape almost seems normal? Sexual Abuse is alomost common in teenage girls. I always read about it in my magazines every month there is a sexual abuse victim. I have always sympathised (spelling) with them and it makes me feel horrible that this happens to people.

EXACTLY!! How come rape almost seems normal? I ask myself the exact same question and never get an answer out of it!!!

I really don't know what to tell you dae I never thought it was common till awhile back.

I had one person tell me she was raped/molested and it was multiple times as I go on in the world I keep hearing about it more and more often and it just pisses me off that people would do that what has happened to this world that this happens not just once in a while but almost daily