Our upbringing is responsible for a lot of who we are. How have you been brought up, and what do you think that's made you? Do you think your parent/s have done a good job?

One thing that particularly worries me is discipline, I hate seeing parents hit their kids as punishment, without even being pushed to it, like it becomes a habit. It seems to me that it sets up a bad relationship, treating a kid that way is bound to lead to resentment, it's not going to help them become a well balanced adult.

So share your stories and what do you think about corporal punishment?

My parents are the kinda people who think that if they don't say "I love you" enough to me then I won't believe it. They say it too much and I don't believe it anymore because now it just seems like their little "habit." I hate it and anytime someone shows even the most remote amount of affection towards me, or a compliment or anything positive, I cringe. I like being insulted more because at least I know the person is being honest.

My parents have been the best, they encourage me and are always there for me even when I am being a total loser.
I want to be a parent one day and I hope I'll be a good one especuially since I want to adopt.

My parents are not very warm at all. There are some good things that have come from this. I'm very self reliant and certain of my own views. They haven't had very direct influence on my views. I kinda figured stuff out on my own. But I like that. A bad thing about it though is that I'm rather uncomfortable around people. I'm far less touchy-feely than most of my friends. My grandma says I don't know how to hug. I feel kind of bad about that. I don't want people to think I'm unaffectionate or that I don't like them.

My mom thinks she was too hard on me. She saw that I was somewhat gifted and pushed me for all I was worth when I was young. Thats her take on it anyway. Mostly I'm just glad that they were fairly open-minded. Thus far they haven't tried to burn me at the stake. hehe

My mother was telling me the other day how she neglected me when I was a child. It was heart-warming, obviously. And it explained why I'm such an evil ***** now.

I've been hit once, or twice, but that was because I did something really bad... But I think I deserve it, just as much as everyone deserves to die. teEheE!

My parents were never married, and I have to go back and forth between houses each week, so I've never lived in one house for more than 2 weeks straight. I guess that isn't good, because I'm so used to it that I go crazy staying in one place for more than 2 weeks..and I'm gonna have to do that eventually. Atleast they don't fight though. My mom and stepdad fight sometimes, but its over stupid stuff, because my stepdad is a little off.

Anyway.. about being a parent:
I really want kids, atleast 2 and I love them so much. But I haven't figured out when a good time in my life would be. I don't want to be someone who starts trying when they're like 40...but I also want to have a career and I know some people do it, but I'm a little scared about that...well I guess I don't have to worry. I'm not having kids til I'm atleast 25 thank u very much.

well, inky, if i could legally marry, then i would be a good parent, but of course, everyone hopes that they will be a good parent to their kids. *shrugs* you cant really see that far into the future, you know.

Aww... doesn't anyone have views on their parents/parenting?
Do you want to have kids? What kind of parent do you think you'd be?

Inky

The way I see it, you either react against your parents or react towards them; like things that annoy you about them you're going to do the opposite of, and things that you admire about them you're going to follow. Or sometimes you follow negative characteristics anyway cause that's all you know.
Earthgoddess, there's always helplines and stuff that could probably help you, just give you someone to talk to. Feel free to vent on here if it helps. And you'll be able to leave home soon.

Inky

My parents are disgusting slobs. They dont fight too much but when they do I always feel the urge to call the police. I'm deadly afraid of my father. When he starts yelling I completely withdraw into myself and my mentality turns into that of a 4 year old again, I want someone to comfort me but there's no one. I have a year and a half until I go to college but I dont think I'll make it.

ehhh, S-I, a couple suicide attemps, you know, the norm (if you knew my parents) god i hate them. how have they effected me? hate hate hate. thats all they do and thats all theyve taught me.