Surrogacy is an arrangement or deal whereby a woman agrees to become pregnant for the purpose of giving birth to a child for others to raise. She must be implanted with someone else’s fertilized egg or be inseminated with the sperm of the commissioning father. Besides, this woman must bear the child for approximately 9 months till ‘it’ is born. Due to these circumstances, it is certain that the pregnant mother is the child’s genetic or conception mother, though at later stage she has to hand over her role of social mother to the commissioning mother.

In fact, surrogacy has inflicted much controversial debates in the world. One of the clearest arguments for supporting surrogacy is that it allows infertility and childless couples who want a family, to have a child. It is also one of the ways to get a child, besides adoption.
However, the question is should surrogacy be continued? What happens if the surrogate mother violates the deal by not giving the child to ‘its’ commissioning parents? What happens if the child born has severe disabilities? How if miscarriage or multiple births occur? Should there still be a payment?

Furthermore, there are some religions stating that surrogate motherhood is not ethically and morally acceptable because it is contrary to unity of marriage and against the genuine process of child birth.
There might be even serious debate, for instance, if a mother helps her infertility daughter to bear a child by being the surrogate mother, it might cause conflict regarding who the real mother of the baby is. Is it the “grandmother” who gives birth to the baby? Or is it the genetic mother who does not conceive the baby at all? Sensibly, the genetic mother will not know the excruciating pain of conceiving and giving birth to a baby, which has known to strengthen the relationship among the baby and mother. So, do you think the genetic mother is playing her role as a real mother?

Therefore, is surrogacy acceptable? Should surrogacy be allowed? Ladies and gentlemen, I really would like to hear your views regarding this matter.

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Originally posted by LetsStopThisInWV:
lol well i don't care about ur life. I'm all for letting anyone do what they want....ur choice is ur freedom. I was just stating my opinion thank you very much. not trying to control ur life geeee

Haha I wasn't replying to you. I was replying to:

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Originally posted by Wolfie:
well we don't have a world with infinite resources so at some point every country is going to have to do something to regulate the population.

I understood what you meant.

isn't it the same thing to say 'everything happens for a reason' or 'everything happens on purpose'?

lolz sorry v.v

i'll stop.

i think that this should be allowed, because if someone cant carry a child, like yogore said that doesn't mean that the male's genes shouldn't be passed on to the next generation,
i also think it's a good idea because if you don't want to go through with adoption and have the child have the male's genes it would be great too. just because someone can't have a child doesn't mean that they shouldn't be able to have one everyone should have an equal opportunity at having a child, whether it be through adoption, actually having one, or through surrogacy.

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I don't think that surrogacy is acceptable. If you can't have children yourself, then you were not supposed to have children.

This all comes down to whether you believe things happen for a reason or on purpose. What gives you the right to say because someone is barren they shouldn't have children? By this logic, adoption also should be illegal, because couples would be getting children they didn't deserve.

There is a biological survival of the fittest argument, but that might not apply to both people in the couple. Just because a woman can't carry a child doesn't mean the male's genes shouldn't be passed on.

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Originally posted by Hoopdawg08:
or we could just exterminate the unreasonable assholes who think that how I live is somehow thier business and something they should have control of...

just a suggestion

lol well i don't care about ur life. I'm all for letting anyone do what they want....ur choice is ur freedom. I was just stating my opinion thank you very much. not trying to control ur life geeee

lol, i agree, but they make life slightly more interesting. in a way. maybe not. hmm.

or we could just exterminate the unreasonable assholes who think that how I live is somehow thier business and something they should have control of...

just a suggestion

well we don't have a world with infinite resources so at some point every country is going to have to do something to regulate the population.

Then you should try moving to China.

i think there should be a limit on kids per household.

i didn't mean for it to sound like i was blaming them for the population increase. that's not what i meant at all. I meant that why would you add another life to the world when there are plenty of kids who don't already have parents?

lol i don't really want to have children anyway. I don't want them to have to grow up in this crappy world. the only way i will consider having kids is if whoever i marry really wants them. ha if i was barren that would be fantastic cuz it means i don't have to worry about birth control!

The reason why the population is going up isn't because of a few mothers having one surrogate child. It's going up because of religious hicks that don't believe in birth control and have over 5 kids. Even people who have more than two kids are just contributing.

I hope that when it comes time for you to have children, you find out you're barren.

I completely disagree with you, but am in a rush so I will just leave a smilie to express myself.

i personally don't know why a woman would do this. it just seems odd that someone would want another person to birth their child but say that it was theirs from the start when technically that child is always going to have that mother-child bond with the surrogate mother even if it does have the genetics of the parents.

I don't think that surrogacy is acceptable. If you can't have children yourself, then you were not supposed to have children. This is just my opinion. I'm not saying that its fair either cuz i realize some people really do want kids but simply can't have them. in that case i think that they should adopt because there are plenty of kids without parents looking for parents without kids. this would eliminate a population increase as well if these wannabe parents would just adopt instead of trying to produce another new child.

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I believe that it is totally right!it's not the couples fault they can't have a child on their own.so why make them suffer for it!

I like the idea of surrogacy, because some couples are unable to have children but the mother is unable to carry a child to term. They could adopt, but some people just really want a kid of their own.

I don't know if it's possible, but what if the chosen sperm fertilizes the surrogates egg?

you could just adopt, but i suppose it is up to the person.

I agree with clpo, there is nothing wrong with it. If everyone agrees, it is a win win situation for all involved. For more info go to http://myeggdonor.com or http://becomeasurrogatemother.com

I personally find nothing wrong with it. As you said, it can help infertile couples have a baby that's at least partially theirs (genetically speaking), and it's also useful for gay couples, who would need a woman to carry their child (for obvious reasons).

I understand that there are downsides to it, but there are downsides to everything. Things like withholding the baby become legal issues, akin to stealing. To circumvent something like that, there should ideally be some sort of contract signed by all parties beforehand. This could also cover what happens in the event of a miscarriage or other problem with the pregnancy and/or baby itself. Sort of a family-by-family basis. Having strict limits on who can be a surrogate and what they can do while pregnant would probably also be good ideas. I mean, having your daughter's baby is a nice thing to do, but it's really just weird to think about. Then again, the mother would be more related to that baby than if it had been carried by a stranger.

Morals should really have nothing to do with it. If a person finds surrogacy immoral or unethical, they shouldn't have kids through a surrogate. But the qualms of a few people shouldn't keep others from having kids that are least somewhat genetically related to them.