I need some help here. There's this new girl at my school and my school is like 99% black and she is the only white girl there. She's quiet and keeps to herself. I think she has a medical problem, but I'm not sure. I just want to help her. Let her know that even if she fells alone, she not. I don't know what to say, how to even start the conversation. I need some help. Give me some ideas PLEASE!!!

ok what excactly does "ashy" mean?

my school is almost completely white, we have....we have at most 10 black kids in our school and that is including the middle and elementary schools. And mixed in we have like 2 or 3 asian kids. But, even tho I come from a school with little ghetto influences I am not racist at all. One of the black kids at my school is one of my really good friends and my dad's best friend from high school is black(he's the coolest guy ever). It's weird tho, my mom's side of my family is racist and i hate it so much. they judge people on the stupidest little things.

Well, I can't really provide much help in the new girl category, b/c I have never been a new girl. I have gone to the same hick school my whole life. I guess all i can say is make her feel welcome and don't pick on her for being different; I'm sure if she does have a medical problem she has already been teased in the past about that. maybe it would be best if you had more people to help you...one person making her feel welcome is good but if a only one person in the whole school is helping her its not gonna do much good. Get a group of your friends to do the same that way she feels even better.

I know from experience that its never fun to b the new girl. Sometimes people can b extra shy and are uneay or unsure about how to make new friends, especially if they have just lost a bunch of old ones. U can try to start by inviting her to sit at lunch with u and a couple of your friends. But first make sure that ure friends r comfortable with being her friend also. Then try to show her how much fun it would b for her to hang out with u and ure friends and show her that she will b excepted no matter what. If that works than u will have another friend to hang out wit. If not then obviosly she needs to figure out where she wants to fit in and mabe u can help her with that by talking to her 1 on 1. Good Luck!!

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Also what kind of vagina writes a thank you note...

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Well, as far as I know, vaginas can't write at all...they don't have hands or fingers... but you wouldn't know, of course.

But my school is mainly white but we have a LOT of really smart asian people:-).Some black people who try to be all "ghetto"...actually, that's what some white people do, too. New kids usually find somewhere they can fit in, at my school.

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There is this boy at my school,and everyone is so mean to him.I was nice enough to give him a chance, and yesterday he wrote me a letter thanking me for being his friend.I almost cried.Right then I knew I had made a difference in his life.

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What a ***. I would make fun of him for being such a girl and taking all the sh!t from people. Also what kind of vagina writes a thank you note...

That's how I felt when I went south of the county line in to Durham. Most schools there are mostly black. I didn't have a problem with it. My school (it's not a Durham school)is about 59% white, 39% black, 2% mexican and a little bit of everything else. Just talk to her. It might make her day.

There is this boy at my school,and everyone is so mean to him.I was nice enough to give him a chance, and yesterday he wrote me a letter thanking me for being his friend.I almost cried.Right then I knew I had made a difference in his life.

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Once I figured out what 'ashy' was, it was all good.

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LOL... I went to a school where it was basically half black people, and half white(with a few a different race), and I was friends with this black girl, and I was so confused about what being "ashy" meant. But before that, I went to a school that was all mexicans(I was in heaven! I love mexicans!), there was a few whites and a few blacks, but probably 98% was mexicans, and they talked about being "ashy", I was so totally confused. but now that i think about it, it is hilarious.

I have been "the new girl" many many many times, and it is hard to go to a whole new town, with all new people leaving all your friends. So, I think it would be best to talk to her. She sounds really shy, like me. And if noone talked to me, I didn't talk to them.

just go up, say hi, tnro yourself ans ask her stuff like where she came from, is she planning to see any movies (or suggest one). Talk about yourself too just don't overdo it.
find something y'all have in common

I think kids are so mean. There are so many stories of kids hanging themselves and killing one another. How would you feel if the kid you once mad fun of killed themself because of you. That's why I do try to be nice to people, but if they're mean to me I have no problem being mean right back.

Nicole who are you talking about?

I wouldn't say anything about her medical problem. If she moved into such a different environment and you think she might have medical issues, there is a good chance she had to move to be near her doctors. She probably already feels isolated because of her condition, and the best thing you can do is pay attention to her and ignore her medical problems - unless she brings it up. Then just listen. But the long and short of it is, try to be as warm and welcoming as you can be, because you never know what kind of hell she might be going through, and what a difference you can make. Don't find out the hard way - you will always regret it if something terrible happens, and you weren't even there to help her.

This new girl in my school came last year, and everyone was so rude to her. I felt horrible, she seemed so shy and innocent. She never talked to anyone and she had absolutly no friends. I just went up to her one day in science, and asked if she wanted to be my partner in the labs. I got to know her, and I introduced her to all my friends, and I inculded her in all of my conversations and projects. 1 year later, she is my best friend. She was just scared no one was going to like her.

-Nicole

whoa... 1st time i ever heard white people getting discriminated...well anyway, y dont u and ur frend make her feel welcome. id probably b all quiet 2 if i wer in a school wer im d only asian.......

first, u should just maybe walk up to her and ask her how she's doin... if she blows u off... dont look desperate... just let her know u wont make fun of her and that if she ever needs a friend or help, to talk to u! i guess thats all the information i can give u 4 now... im really just trying 2 think of something 2 say 2 try 2 help u!!!!!!!!!

If she was shy, then she probably wouldn't reply to ya. of if she was scared she would never talk to you again. So just walking up and saying wassup wouldn't probably be the best thing to do. And she is the only white girl there? Man that outta be tough. So the best thing I think, would be to maybe join her at lunch, and be nice...

talk to her... i'm pretty sure she's lonely. but don't ask her if she has a medical condition bcuz that would probably intimidate her if she has one and offend her if she didn't. but like billybarrio said, don't do it out of pity

hey, I agree with Billybarrio.
I mean, if you are just want to do this out of pity, don't do it! If you are just trying to make her feel better then ditch her, DON'T DO IT...
I did that once, I felt sorry for this one new grl that came to our school in like the middle of the year, she was
weird and dressed weird,she had a sucky attitude about EVERYTHING. Everybody thought she was
hoplessly stupid.
So, out of feeling sorry for her, I said hello,
told her my name, welcomed her to my school and had a little
convo. with her.
found out that she was in EVERY ONE OF MY CLASSES.
After that, she became clingy.
She wouldn't leave me alone and I don't like people like that.
So, if you don't want a little white grl hanging all over you all the time, then don't do it.
If you really want to be her friend, go for it!
(by the way, I am white so don't think I am racist!)LOL

Just say: Hey My name is ______. Are you new here? RESPONSE (I'm guessing she's reply with yes) then you could respond with a: "Where did you move from?" or "Is this school like your old school" Then you could offer to show her around if she need it, etc. Just be friendly and smile.
I think that it is really sweet of you that you are taking the time trying to get to know someone, especially someone is different.
I'm white and at least 75% of my school is black and I had used to going to schools where there might be 2 black people in a class tops and I was really intimidated. I thought we'd have nothing in common. Actually, now I hang out with as black people just as much as I do with white people. Once I figured out what 'ashy' was, it was all good. I think a big misconception by the older generation and some young people of today is that black and white people have little in common. I consider myself blessed to have had my eyes opened the way they have. God made us all, we are just slightly different shades.

you talk to her and get to know her real well. ask her what school she went to. get her name. find out what kinda music she likes. what classes she has. what she likes to do. what sports she's into. then when u get to know her better and u two are friends you invite her over from time to time and gain her trust. then before u know it u two will be best friends and that implies that she can trust you w/anything but that goes for you too. you need to respect her and trust her fully. hope i helped

steph