Okay...well..i dont know how to say this. Im sorry if this is poorly informative, but here it goes. My parents have been together for, about 14 years. I can tell when the other walks in the room that the other is filled with joy and happiness. They have argued alot about how me and my brother should be raised. They have even locked themselves in their room and argued and debated what they should do. I asked my mother today how bad they were fighting and even if it was up to the point for a divorce. She just told me that she wasnt going to say yes or no. I dont think that any of you people here on youthnoise know me really well. But, well.. obviously...what happens to them affects me...alot. And i just pray everyday that they dont get a divorce. What should i do... i dont even know what to think. A little part of me is saying that this will blow over and they will some how make things work....but...what should i do? what do you think will happen? i dont wanna sound like a pysco.. i just dont know what to do....this has never happend...at least THIS bad...please reply...

-~-Lauren-~-

tell them what you want. it's not about their happiness so much as yours. I thank god my parents didn't divorce, even if i can only handle them one at a time. =P You don't deserve to go through life with one parent, it's a familial tie that should never be severed.

sometimes, the only way to make them understand the truth of divorce, they must learn what life without you would be like.

Lauren, Im not going to sit here and lie to you and say that everything is going to be okay but what I can say is pray about it. Pray about the situation that your in, pray for your parents and pray for yourself. You might think Im crazy but if I have a problem and I dont know what to do, say, or think, I pray about it and talk to God about it of course and then I talk to my animals. I told you you would think I was crazy but before you make your mind up about me, if you have any animals at all whether its a bird, dog, cat, monkey or anything at all, just go them, sit down and talk like your talking to a person.But if that doesnt work or you dont have any animals, you can put me on your buddy list and e-mail me any time you need to talk. I give the best advise I can to any body thats willing to hear what I have to say.dashed69@hotmail.com

Ok my mom and stepdad just got an divorce a couple of weeks ago and my mom is sooo torn up about not about the divorce about how she will take care of my sis and me!!She has made my aunt and cousin mad at her and she is mad at them so i think you should sit your mom down and your dad and tell them how you feel!!Well wut i did was write my mom an letter or note wutever but i wrote wut i felt was rite to write!!Tell her bout how hard it is to hear them fight and tell them that you luv them dearly and don't want them to split up!!Well gotz to go i hope this is of sum help to ya!!!!

~~!!Paige!!~~

I hate divorce, and frankly I think that parents or married people should never divorce because divorce can bring so much heartbreak. My parents divorced from a 13 year marriage, because of my father and his alcohol. I was only 8 or so when it happened, and it was horrible. I had never cried so much. But, after about 3 years later when my father moved to Washington leaving me and my brother here in Massachusetts, my mom became happier. So, if your parents do happen to divorce, just think of how much happier they will be away from each other, and how you won't have to hear their fighting constantly. Well,I hope that everything turns out fine for your parents.

>Stacey<

I understand that you love both your parents and want them to stay together.

But if I were in your position I'd want them to get divorced. My parents fight sometimes and I hate it every time. If it got to the point where it seemed like they were always fighting and that they were completely unhappy with the other, I'd ask them to get a divorce because I wouldn't want to live in that kind of household. Look at it this way: You'll probably still get to see them and spend time with them. You just won't have to put up with the fighting.

Aside from my all of that, there's nothing you can do. This is not your fault or your problem; it's their problem. It's something they need to work out and there's nothing you can do to help them. They are adults and you are their kid. If they are truly unhappy with each other, they'll get a divorce. If they're not then they won't. But you can't do anything about it.

i understand what you are going thru, my parents are getting a divorce after almost 18 yrs of marriage, the last 8 of which they fought and argued.
You can't do much to prevent a divorce, you should try and NOT get involved in this. It's your parents life and their decisions unfortunately even if it does affect you.

I agree with Celtic: you won't have to hear them argue anymore. That's a bit more positive than hearing all the fighting and negativity.

I hope that everything works out for the best, that's all you can do to. Don't lose your faith in things. This isn't your fault in any way whatsoever and no one can tell you any different.

laters~~~~~§love is never destroyed§

Maybe your parents dont realize that while they are "debating and arguing" they arnt doing a very fine job of doing what they are arguing about.The more time they spend in the debating is less time they are paying attention to you.Try to talk to them about this in a calm mature matter.Dont get dug into the debate.You have a right to voice your opion,especialy if it concerns you.You have no control over there decisions about divorce.Also maybe you could ask God to do His will in this matter because if you ask for them not to get a divorce and they do,well,thats leaving God holding the bag.Try explaning to your parents that there arguing is taking away from you the best years of your life,your childhood.You are not grown,may think you know alot,but later in life you will see how misguided that concept was.Thats some thing that cant be explained.Learning and growing from our mistakes,the mistakes of others is the best teacher in the world.If we constantly try the same idea over and over and expect diffrent results with out changing,we are setting our selves up for failure.Two other thoughts:Look for the positive,be positive,be supportive and dont lose your happy thoughts,We all know what happens when we lose our happy thoughts!!Love you!!

Stay out of it. Its your parents that aren't working out and there's no reason for you to be involved. It doen't work out like it does in movies so don't push them together or set them up. A divorce is not in anyway your fault or responsibility just remember that.

think it this way: if they get divorced, you wont hear them fight anymore