quote: Therefore if you have sex before marriage you risk a dry, stale and unforfilling marriage.
Actually, if you have sex before marriage, then you will most likely stay together, since you'll know what the **** your doing. Whereas if you were married a virgin, then you would know nothing about sex, and since men like sex, a lot, that could creat a problem.
I believe that sex is gods reward for marriage and a tool that we use to expand his kindom by procreation. So people that are married by the hand of God are blessed, their families are blessed and therefore God can extend his kindom. I also think that sex is the fire in a marriage. Marriage is like a fuel that lasts forver, sex is the kindling. If you use all your kindling before you get ur fire going, it won't last long. Therefore if you have sex before marriage you risk a dry, stale and unforfilling marriage.
No wonder there is so much divorce.
You might argue that there is alot of Christian Divorce as well. That is because alot of Christian men pressure their partners into marriage so they can have sex. That is their primary motivation. But this is not the work of God. God wants marriage and family. It is human tendancies that are constantly pushed at us by the media and pop-culture.
if youre in hs & college and having sex...thats a big no no. its just stupid...you cant be trying to raise a kid during those years! and if you drop out of hs or college, itll look really bad on your reseme, and chances are that the once relationship will break up, anyway. girl stuck w/ baby, boy leaves.
now, out in the real world...i dont know if i would even do it then. not b/c you cant raise a kid...or a couple cant live together and raise a kid. its b/c...you want to save that for someone you know youre truly tied to (in other words, when youre married).
however -- if youre ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED, thats fine. youre getting married ANYWAY. what if the engagement breaks up, you say? well...thatd be like asking, what if the marriage broke up and a divorce is the result? gee, yeah, like that hasnt happened enough already...its so common. but, yeah, anyway -- at least save sex for when your engaged. i know you can always use protection, but its too risky...
The reason to get married is to spend your life with the person God has for you and live for God together. Sex is only something that is enjoyed within the marriage relationship.
that's a load of crap. if you really believe that, then good for you, but i personally can't stand preachy elitists who attempt to elevate themsleves based upon one-sided moral righteousness.
i could just as easily say that you don't respect your body at all because you don't know how to give it pleasure, nor do you know how to give another body pleasure. both that statement and yours are foolish - everyone lives by their own moral code, and you have given us nothing to believe that your moral code is worth comparing to ours. so you live your way, i'll live mine. to trump your life as superior to mine, however, is baseless and reeks of an inferiority complex.
Yeah, you're right. We respect our bodies and ourselves more and don't want to sleep with someone until we have a lasting commitment (at least I hope that's what you think marriage is). Sex IS a big deal, no matter if you think it is or not.
not that anyone cares...but heres my opinion..sex is a big responsibility..so big that most people arent even ready for it. im a very religious guy. and i never beleived in premarital sex. then one day i made a mistake. a mistake that would ultimately change my life forever. my g/f got pregnant. all of a sudden i was 18 with a baby on the way and had no idea what to do. im married now and happy. but what im saying is sex is alot more then a few minutes of feeling good. even if noone gets pregnant or an STD sex is still a big responsiblity mentally. you owe it to yourself and your partner to carefully weigh the pros and cons of sex.
Iluvjp, you know there are others things in a marriage besides sex, right? Just because I'm not a virgin doesn't mean I'm not special or that I have nothing to offer a man. It means that I most likely have more to offer him since I'll know what I'm doing on my wedding night.
I think that if you can handle the responsibility of having sex and the other person is okay with it then okay. It's your choice,not anyone else's. As a matter of fact,I don't plan on waiting until I'm married,but I AM waiting until I think I can handle the responsibility of having sex.
iluvjp - if you want to remain a virgin go for it. but losing your virginity is going to have a lot of nasty surprises - most of our first kisses are terrible - and having good sex can be quite a bit harder than having just a good make-out session. just something to bear in mind. but if it's that special to you, then you might as well keep it.
and i'd say that most of the people who move into together are having sex before marriage.
So, what do you plan on giving your husband that would be so special??? I don't see a point in marriage if you don't have something to share between just the two of you.
Jook, and don't forget the pain. Losing your virginity does not feel good, Iluvjp, and I don't know why you think it's so special. Losing my virginity would actually be the last thing on my mind to do on my wedding night, and losing my virginity was one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. And not because I felt guilty, but because of the pain and the inability to walk right for the rest of the day.
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